Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking siteNicholas said:The very thing - thinking about fb and its affect on your social life is a bit of over-analyzing.
I never said it has no effect, but it's not necessairly good or bad. It's up to you how you use it. You can use it or not, but neither of those two ways is generaly the right way. It's just a personal preference. CheersMisterD said:Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking site
You know how many friendships are started/ended, relationships started/ended, hookups started/ended thanks to facebook? This is the world we live in now.
Anyway, I expected different responses in this thread but i guess i'll be the first to congratulate you. i deleted mine a few years ago and have no regrets. if you want to reach me, you have my number. also flakes are less of a problem because chicks aren't able to view my profile at any time and get their fix. want your fix? call me and we'll set something up
you also avoid facebook drama which, when dealing with people my age, is always a problem. a sad problem, but a problem nonetheless
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
This is pretty sad.drak_ool said:Bad move and I'll tell you why in one word: pre-selection.
As Roissy/Chateau/Heartiste is emphasizing yet again in his latest post, pre-selection is the number one most powerful tool in a player's arsenal. Unless you have female groupies following you around, I've become convinced that facebook is the best platform for you to show off. Yes, you can call it shallow since it is. But then again, we are here to look at how to increase our chances with women, not to philosophize about metaphysics. When you think about it, facebook gives everyone their 5 seconds of fame. That's why pple are constantly posting pictures and retarded comments on it, for the desperate hope that somebody else will give them a "like".
Pathetic, I know, but when you use it to your advantage it will help your game grow exponentially. And here we go back to pre-selection. The vast majority of my pics on fb are either with hot chicks (exes, random hookups, even random girls) or with my boys having a good time (partying, Vegas, on boats, at the beach, surfing). I'm not posting every 5 minutes, but when I do, the first 10 comments are from hot chicks. If anyone posts something on my wall I don't like, i take it off, be it a comment or a photo of me that looks retarded.
Does this work? I can certainly vouch for it. Recently a girl I've been seeing has posted a bunch of pics of us at a wedding. Now you bet she was looking off the hook, got dolled out for 2 hours before we went to the event. The same day the pics were up, three other girls texted me out of the blue with some variant of "hey, we haven't hang out in a while, we should do something this week."
With a very minimal effort on your part, you can get great results from fb.