"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Just deleted my facebook
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Who Dares Win
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A lot of guys screw up because they upolad their WoW record on fb or have stupid friends loading stupid things in their board, we all agree that stuff like this its not what makes a man but go explain it to girls surfing your board..
The very thing - thinking about fb and its affect on your social life is a bit of over-analyzing, and it seems to me it's just a desperate try to mask the true reasons for your lonliness.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking siteNicholas said:
You know how many friendships are started/ended, relationships started/ended, hookups started/ended thanks to facebook? This is the world we live in now.
Anyway, I expected different responses in this thread but i guess i'll be the first to congratulate you. i deleted mine a few years ago and have no regrets. if you want to reach me, you have my number. also flakes are less of a problem because chicks aren't able to view my profile at any time and get their fix. want your fix? call me and we'll set something up
you also avoid facebook drama which, when dealing with people my age, is always a problem. a sad problem, but a problem nonetheless
I never said it has no effect, but it's not necessairly good or bad. It's up to you how you use it. You can use it or not, but neither of those two ways is generaly the right way. It's just a personal preference. CheersMisterD said:
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
For example: How creepy is it for a workplace to ask for your facebook account's password? U.S. government agencies do it.
On top of that, so much is coordinated through it now that deleting it would be shooting myself in the foot socially as I'd never know what's going on until after the fact. Parties and other events are mostly promoted on there nowadays and invites sent out via Facebook, few are even going to think to call that one guy who doesn't have Facebook and let him know, if they even remember.
Victory Unlimited
Master Don Juan
I'm not totally sure since the recent changes, but isn't there still a setting on it that's called "Only Me"? If so, this should allow you to block everybody from seeing your info but you (and of course the CIA, FBI, Google head honchos, and a variety of other "Big Brother" type organizations...lol)
I know of quite a few guys who only have a Facebook page to post up one or two pics, an email address, and the most basic----but SPARSE information. For them, they just use it to establish a "presence" on the site----but not as a platform of communication itself.
This tactic works pretty well for me and for a lot of other guys.
But now, if guys are using it to "E-Stalk" old girlfriends, or if guys are obsessed with checking it every 5 minutes, then having a Facebook page probably isn't a good idea for them to have at all.
As Roissy/Chateau/Heartiste is emphasizing yet again in his latest post, pre-selection is the number one most powerful tool in a player's arsenal. Unless you have female groupies following you around, I've become convinced that facebook is the best platform for you to show off. Yes, you can call it shallow since it is. But then again, we are here to look at how to increase our chances with women, not to philosophize about metaphysics. When you think about it, facebook gives everyone their 5 seconds of fame. That's why pple are constantly posting pictures and retarded comments on it, for the desperate hope that somebody else will give them a "like".
Pathetic, I know, but when you use it to your advantage it will help your game grow exponentially. And here we go back to pre-selection. The vast majority of my pics on fb are either with hot chicks (exes, random hookups, even random girls) or with my boys having a good time (partying, Vegas, on boats, at the beach, surfing). I'm not posting every 5 minutes, but when I do, the first 10 comments are from hot chicks. If anyone posts something on my wall I don't like, i take it off, be it a comment or a photo of me that looks retarded.
Does this work? I can certainly vouch for it. Recently a girl I've been seeing has posted a bunch of pics of us at a wedding. Now you bet she was looking off the hook, got dolled out for 2 hours before we went to the event. The same day the pics were up, three other girls texted me out of the blue with some variant of "hey, we haven't hang out in a while, we should do something this week."
With a very minimal effort on your part, you can get great results from fb.
coochieman
Don Juan
GOOD MOVE, BROTHER. No doubt about it, [although restrictions and sparse info while keeping your account is almost as good if you're too ***** to delete yours]. Facebook is nothing but a platform for extreme foolin' and attention seekin'........
A player is a player, he's good and everybody knows it. Whether or not he's got a Facebook account or not, so fucck all that crap of social proofin' and showin' off.....
Mystery might be only a tiny pre-requisite regarding the game as a whole, but fucck yeah its mandatory!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SamTheHobit
Master Don Juan
This is pretty sad.drak_ool said:
Packers2010
Master Don Juan
I have come to realize facebook is bad for me.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
Of course gaming in person is more effective, and funner. But if you have such a weapon at your disposal then why not?