Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking siteNicholas said:The very thing - thinking about fb and its affect on your social life is a bit of over-analyzing.
I never said it has no effect, but it's not necessairly good or bad. It's up to you how you use it. You can use it or not, but neither of those two ways is generaly the right way. It's just a personal preference. CheersMisterD said:Of course it affects your social life--it's a social networking site
You know how many friendships are started/ended, relationships started/ended, hookups started/ended thanks to facebook? This is the world we live in now.
Anyway, I expected different responses in this thread but i guess i'll be the first to congratulate you. i deleted mine a few years ago and have no regrets. if you want to reach me, you have my number. also flakes are less of a problem because chicks aren't able to view my profile at any time and get their fix. want your fix? call me and we'll set something up
you also avoid facebook drama which, when dealing with people my age, is always a problem. a sad problem, but a problem nonetheless
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
This is pretty sad.drak_ool said:Bad move and I'll tell you why in one word: pre-selection.
As Roissy/Chateau/Heartiste is emphasizing yet again in his latest post, pre-selection is the number one most powerful tool in a player's arsenal. Unless you have female groupies following you around, I've become convinced that facebook is the best platform for you to show off. Yes, you can call it shallow since it is. But then again, we are here to look at how to increase our chances with women, not to philosophize about metaphysics. When you think about it, facebook gives everyone their 5 seconds of fame. That's why pple are constantly posting pictures and retarded comments on it, for the desperate hope that somebody else will give them a "like".
Pathetic, I know, but when you use it to your advantage it will help your game grow exponentially. And here we go back to pre-selection. The vast majority of my pics on fb are either with hot chicks (exes, random hookups, even random girls) or with my boys having a good time (partying, Vegas, on boats, at the beach, surfing). I'm not posting every 5 minutes, but when I do, the first 10 comments are from hot chicks. If anyone posts something on my wall I don't like, i take it off, be it a comment or a photo of me that looks retarded.
Does this work? I can certainly vouch for it. Recently a girl I've been seeing has posted a bunch of pics of us at a wedding. Now you bet she was looking off the hook, got dolled out for 2 hours before we went to the event. The same day the pics were up, three other girls texted me out of the blue with some variant of "hey, we haven't hang out in a while, we should do something this week."
With a very minimal effort on your part, you can get great results from fb.