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This is my mentality. Please feel free to give your opinions.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That's your mistake John, you have to look for yxz IOI. It's a common misinterpretation.JohnChops said:"oh ya that guy BeDJ said if she doesnt give off xyz IOI then she isnt interested"
Let me go spin plates, read the DJBible, and pray to Pook the great g0d. :moon: Brb.BeDJ said:That's your mistake John, you have to look for yxz IOI. It's a common misinterpretation.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i tried to get into meditation but it never worked, phuck, everyone says its so relaxing.crossedup said:Agree completely, my game improved when I quit reading and just got in the field. Meditation has been the real key to my social improvement as I can get out of my head and remove the clutter I had before when I read this site everyday.
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
Sums it all up perfectly.crossedup said:Agree completely, my game improved when I quit reading and just got in the field. Meditation has been the real key to my social improvement as I can get out of my head and remove the clutter I had before when I read this site everyday.
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
Used to think like this, but then realized chatting means feeding their ego while their boyfriend gets to plow them at night.crossedup said:Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
+1.JohnChops said:In all honesty, I feel like you can fill your head with all this "game" crap but it clutters your mind in the field, anyway.
I used to do some Kriya Yoga, because I found it interesting. It was a mix of yoga and meditation. It teaches you to relax, so I found that it really helped me reduce stress, it teaches you how to handle stress, how to relax when you are stressed.JohnChops said:i tried to get into meditation but it never worked, phuck, everyone says its so relaxing.