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This is my mentality. Please feel free to give your opinions.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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I agree, hence why people feel the need to "warm up" by talking to old people, couples, other dudes, etc before opening up to game women.
In all honesty, I feel like you can fill your head with all this "game" crap but it clutters your mind in the field, anyway. Id rather have a clear peaceful mind when out, instead of thinking, "oh ya that guy BeDJ said if she doesnt give off xyz IOI then she isnt interested, oh I gotta initiate tactic plan Z to get her". Thats to much work man, I just want to have fun, like most of you here.
Women are women, you win and lose, phuck em.
Mentality is everything in anything.
In all honesty, I feel like you can fill your head with all this "game" crap but it clutters your mind in the field, anyway. Id rather have a clear peaceful mind when out, instead of thinking, "oh ya that guy BeDJ said if she doesnt give off xyz IOI then she isnt interested, oh I gotta initiate tactic plan Z to get her". Thats to much work man, I just want to have fun, like most of you here.
Women are women, you win and lose, phuck em.
Mentality is everything in anything.
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That's your mistake John, you have to look for yxz IOI. It's a common misinterpretation.JohnChops said:
JohnChops
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Let me go spin plates, read the DJBible, and pray to Pook the great g0d. :moon: Brb.BeDJ said:
Agree completely, my game improved when I quit reading and just got in the field. Meditation has been the real key to my social improvement as I can get out of my head and remove the clutter I had before when I read this site everyday.
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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i tried to get into meditation but it never worked, phuck, everyone says its so relaxing.crossedup said:
Sums it all up perfectly.crossedup said:
Nearly exact same concept behind gaming women and meditating. Involves overcoming the mind and just being present as opposed to trying to make something happen.
Incidentally, I'm terrible at both.
To give an outline of my own meditation if you were to get into it...I began two years ago and nothing happened for a year or so other than relaxation. I didn't notice it crossing over into my everyday life. Then I hit a point in my meditation where I began getting deeper and deeper. I was getting sensations everywhere and I was starting to enjoy my life again (Had been unhappy since high school).
When I truly took off was when I decided to buy Holosync Solution a couple months back. I diligently listen to it every morning and follow the instructions to the letter. My life is improving by the day now. My SA is gone, along with my porn addiction. My bad habits are falling away and I'm becoming more attractive as a person. I would pay 10x what I paid for that program now that I'm using it. Meditation is the real deal, but you have to be consistent and diligent in the practice.
When I truly took off was when I decided to buy Holosync Solution a couple months back. I diligently listen to it every morning and follow the instructions to the letter. My life is improving by the day now. My SA is gone, along with my porn addiction. My bad habits are falling away and I'm becoming more attractive as a person. I would pay 10x what I paid for that program now that I'm using it. Meditation is the real deal, but you have to be consistent and diligent in the practice.
Used to think like this, but then realized chatting means feeding their ego while their boyfriend gets to plow them at night.crossedup said:
You can be social and chat, but it should lead to something. A phone number, a date, sex, whatever. You have to close the deal.
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I honestly just don't give a **** anymore. What people would say to me, what they think of me what they I think they would say behind my back. I am living this life up i'm tired of thinking and procrastinating
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Mr Wright
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I've found that working on one thing at a time really helps. Being social yes, but once you're out, you still have to have a goal. It's like having a map and heading in a direction rather than randomly following a path and hoping for the best. In my experience the proof has been in the pudding, when I've set myself out with small goals, I've succeeded more when I've taken the initiative to actually do something. It's like when I used to go out on my own, I was forced to be social but I also knew for me that it wasn't enough.
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+1.JohnChops said:
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I used to do some Kriya Yoga, because I found it interesting. It was a mix of yoga and meditation. It teaches you to relax, so I found that it really helped me reduce stress, it teaches you how to handle stress, how to relax when you are stressed.JohnChops said:
But just to sit down and meditate, there's nothing wrong with that, but I found the mix of yoga and meditation to be a lot more effective. Plus it gives your body some exercise too, so it's a very holistic experience, seeking health for mind, body, and spirit.