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This is my mentality. Please feel free to give your opinions.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
JohnChops
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I agree, hence why people feel the need to "warm up" by talking to old people, couples, other dudes, etc before opening up to game women.
In all honesty, I feel like you can fill your head with all this "game" crap but it clutters your mind in the field, anyway. Id rather have a clear peaceful mind when out, instead of thinking, "oh ya that guy BeDJ said if she doesnt give off xyz IOI then she isnt interested, oh I gotta initiate tactic plan Z to get her". Thats to much work man, I just want to have fun, like most of you here.
Women are women, you win and lose, phuck em.
Mentality is everything in anything.
In all honesty, I feel like you can fill your head with all this "game" crap but it clutters your mind in the field, anyway. Id rather have a clear peaceful mind when out, instead of thinking, "oh ya that guy BeDJ said if she doesnt give off xyz IOI then she isnt interested, oh I gotta initiate tactic plan Z to get her". Thats to much work man, I just want to have fun, like most of you here.
Women are women, you win and lose, phuck em.
Mentality is everything in anything.
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BeDJ
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That's your mistake John, you have to look for yxz IOI. It's a common misinterpretation.JohnChops said:
JohnChops
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Let me go spin plates, read the DJBible, and pray to Pook the great g0d. :moon: Brb.BeDJ said:
Agree completely, my game improved when I quit reading and just got in the field. Meditation has been the real key to my social improvement as I can get out of my head and remove the clutter I had before when I read this site everyday.
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
Also, just talk to girls, no gameplan. Completely remove yourself from outcomes and just chat. They will love this as long as you just stay friendly and bust their chops every so often. Don't take this sh*t so seriously!
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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i tried to get into meditation but it never worked, phuck, everyone says its so relaxing.crossedup said:
Sums it all up perfectly.crossedup said:
Nearly exact same concept behind gaming women and meditating. Involves overcoming the mind and just being present as opposed to trying to make something happen.
Incidentally, I'm terrible at both.
To give an outline of my own meditation if you were to get into it...I began two years ago and nothing happened for a year or so other than relaxation. I didn't notice it crossing over into my everyday life. Then I hit a point in my meditation where I began getting deeper and deeper. I was getting sensations everywhere and I was starting to enjoy my life again (Had been unhappy since high school).
When I truly took off was when I decided to buy Holosync Solution a couple months back. I diligently listen to it every morning and follow the instructions to the letter. My life is improving by the day now. My SA is gone, along with my porn addiction. My bad habits are falling away and I'm becoming more attractive as a person. I would pay 10x what I paid for that program now that I'm using it. Meditation is the real deal, but you have to be consistent and diligent in the practice.
When I truly took off was when I decided to buy Holosync Solution a couple months back. I diligently listen to it every morning and follow the instructions to the letter. My life is improving by the day now. My SA is gone, along with my porn addiction. My bad habits are falling away and I'm becoming more attractive as a person. I would pay 10x what I paid for that program now that I'm using it. Meditation is the real deal, but you have to be consistent and diligent in the practice.
Used to think like this, but then realized chatting means feeding their ego while their boyfriend gets to plow them at night.crossedup said:
You can be social and chat, but it should lead to something. A phone number, a date, sex, whatever. You have to close the deal.
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I honestly just don't give a **** anymore. What people would say to me, what they think of me what they I think they would say behind my back. I am living this life up i'm tired of thinking and procrastinating
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mr Wright
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I've found that working on one thing at a time really helps. Being social yes, but once you're out, you still have to have a goal. It's like having a map and heading in a direction rather than randomly following a path and hoping for the best. In my experience the proof has been in the pudding, when I've set myself out with small goals, I've succeeded more when I've taken the initiative to actually do something. It's like when I used to go out on my own, I was forced to be social but I also knew for me that it wasn't enough.
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+1.JohnChops said:
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I used to do some Kriya Yoga, because I found it interesting. It was a mix of yoga and meditation. It teaches you to relax, so I found that it really helped me reduce stress, it teaches you how to handle stress, how to relax when you are stressed.JohnChops said:
But just to sit down and meditate, there's nothing wrong with that, but I found the mix of yoga and meditation to be a lot more effective. Plus it gives your body some exercise too, so it's a very holistic experience, seeking health for mind, body, and spirit.