"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Just asked her out and she said "maybe in February, this semester is busy"

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Black Widow Void

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Hate to say it, but you received a polite brush off (we all get them from time to time) .

I wouldn't reply, but if you feel you must... say something like

"Feb. is cool. We should make plans for the 29th"

(and for those reading that don't get it, there's not a 29th on the upcoming February)
 

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Like others have said nuke her from your mind . That’s a complete blow off.... there isn’t a human alive with a schedule that occupied. Don’t acknowledge her... don’t say hi to her.. don’t respond to her texts or calls.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tell her, "You can ask ME out on our 100th date."
 

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
No comment. #nextSet #micdrop

Imagine if Dicaprio texted her. Would she say she's busy? Would Cobra Tate wait? Comply or bye.



Check Mystery Method. Compliance is king. Read the System by Doc Love. Interest level is king.

You, the man makes space for her, the girl to follow your lead. You leave breadcrumbs and lead her back to your gingerbread house. Or next. Repeat till d falls off or dead.

There's hotter girls are turning 18 19 20 21 every day. Real talk.
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Like others have said nuke her from your mind . That’s a complete blow off.... there isn’t a human alive with a schedule that occupied. Don’t acknowledge her... don’t say hi to her.. don’t respond to her texts or calls.
+1

***** is dead to you.

If she’s hit by a mack truck, you are too busy hitting on baeeeees and crushing vagina to attend said skanks funeral.

Op, you need to be RUTHLESS. BECOME A MERCENARY. i didnt say VIOLENT but there should be no ambiguity about your ABILITY AND AFFINITY TO SUCH FEATS.
 

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Just the fact that ur thinking about this so contemplatively is already a loss..

Any hesitation/anxiety or analyzing things with women means ur desire for them is greater for their desire than u.. no matter what, these type of situations usually dont wrok well for the dude.

my 2 cents
 

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Any hesitation/anxiety or analyzing things with women means ur desire for them is greater for their desire than u.. no matter what, these type of situations usually dont wrok well for the dude.
That’s a really great point. Because it immediately makes a man emotional and that’s when he’s already given away his power. Anytime I’ve been anxious with a specific woman it hasn’t gone well. Anytime I’ve been cool it’s gone well. And the difference is the woman made it so easy for me in the latter. No drama.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Not necessarily a bad things as we all know seduction is a game.

Advice?

Thanks.

Ideas:

1) Reply with: Sure, if I still remember you in February/Ha ha, I will probably forget by then.
2) Ask again in a month'ish

Bad ideas:
1) Reply with: okay, I will ask you again in February
2) Wait until Feb and then ask her out again then
OP, you've been rejected.

It's November bro. Do you realize she'll be busy with Chad, Tyrone, Enrique, Vishnu, Hiroshi, Richard, Shane, Justin, and Chang?

Cut her off. Hell she cut you off and wants you to chase. Would she make this excuse if you were Lebron James or Elon Musk? Hell no. She'd have a room ready if they asked her out.

Cut her off. Delete her number. She's interested only if you're a chasing orbiter. You need to lead. If she don't follow or swallow, delete her. She already deleted you and is trying to get with her personal trainer. Don't talk to her anymore unless she calls you with a request to meet up, even then don't spend any money on her. Make her swallow your cüm in the car before going anywhere.

Reward good behavior. Punish bad behavior. Simp motherf**kers keep rewarding bad behavior with attention and gifts. Entitlement is at a big high now because of this.

Case closed.
 

Bigpapa

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Just reply “ sure . Give me a shout then “ and that”s it . Do not engage with her anymore . Is a brush off and if you continue you will become more and more unattractive .

the only way forward is to forget about her and let her come to you if she has any interest
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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I changed my mind. You are now downgraded to boot call.

Trolling as a hobby. Block delete.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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