lizardking82
Master Don Juan
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I appreciate any input here. Or should I just comply to what the gym trainer will give me?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Badass christmass tree! I'm procrastinating on a needed cut but hoping I'll have one of these when I'm done. Lats are feeling pretty swole now.Yeah if you give me a pic i can give you better advice
Heres my pic so you know im not all ****
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Weighted pullups are the go.Badass christmass tree! I'm procrastinating on a needed cut but hoping I'll have one of these when I'm done. Lats are feeling pretty swole now.
Made that mistake in the past if bulking when i was already over 15% bodyfat and i got big (215+) but i was fat as **** and had fat bloated face etc.Basically I agree with infernos idea, get leaner first then go for the size.
When you will start pushing seriously your noobs gains (the boost you have as someone just beginning) will give you more tone and some size.
If you just get big now you will get more muscular but you will drag that high body fat and it will a pain in the ass to lose it without losing muscles too.
Anyway just remember to clean your diet, cut the alchool and the simple sugars and sleep 7-8 hours AT NIGHT, partying till 4 and then getting up at 12 is not the same thing.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That's a strength program that sucks for asthetics, 8-12 reps for muscle growth is the best range5x5 stronglifts is a pretty good system for 3 days a week. If not enough, you can add in isolation work as well
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.