lizardking82
Master Don Juan
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I appreciate any input here. Or should I just comply to what the gym trainer will give me?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Badass christmass tree! I'm procrastinating on a needed cut but hoping I'll have one of these when I'm done. Lats are feeling pretty swole now.Yeah if you give me a pic i can give you better advice
Heres my pic so you know im not all ****
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Weighted pullups are the go.Badass christmass tree! I'm procrastinating on a needed cut but hoping I'll have one of these when I'm done. Lats are feeling pretty swole now.
Made that mistake in the past if bulking when i was already over 15% bodyfat and i got big (215+) but i was fat as **** and had fat bloated face etc.Basically I agree with infernos idea, get leaner first then go for the size.
When you will start pushing seriously your noobs gains (the boost you have as someone just beginning) will give you more tone and some size.
If you just get big now you will get more muscular but you will drag that high body fat and it will a pain in the ass to lose it without losing muscles too.
Anyway just remember to clean your diet, cut the alchool and the simple sugars and sleep 7-8 hours AT NIGHT, partying till 4 and then getting up at 12 is not the same thing.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That's a strength program that sucks for asthetics, 8-12 reps for muscle growth is the best range5x5 stronglifts is a pretty good system for 3 days a week. If not enough, you can add in isolation work as well
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.