"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Judging Interest Level

ladodger32

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I just posted about this, but I look back now and realize how incredibly stupid the post looks...anyways...lemme rephrase...there is a girl I am into who I am having trouble determining the interest level of. Is there an effective and non-lame way to ask if she is interested? What are some ways to test interest level effectively (mainly tho I want to know if there is a way to find out verbally)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The Shocker

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Nike, just do it. Ask her out.
 

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Iv hung out w/ her once before, and I have plans to go out with her again. My question is, when out with her or talking with her, how do I judge if im viewed as a friend or in a more romantic way?
 

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more kino. Put your arm around her back. See if she stays very close to you (bumping into you) or keeps her distance. Look for the IOIs, like playing with hair, biting lip, etc.

Kino is really the answer here though.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Schocker put it right..

The best way to judge is Kino.....

Not only that she is comfortable with your touch , but she should touch you as well , like playing with your hair etc
 

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IOI's, test the water.
This sounds ballsy, but tell her to close her eyes, you've got a surprise and kiss her :]
 

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Not getting personal , but have you ever tried your suggestion ,kiko-???

You'd probably get a slap for that one , not to mention the possiblity of a harasment suit on an extreme case.
 

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Yes, I have. Of course once I've gotten positive results, but yeah.

Be positive.




The kiss isn't meant to be french, just a peck on the lips.
 

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just tried it once????
the cick must really be in you , other wise you'd never get away with it with positive results (i.e not an expression of shock on her face)...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No, I meant i try it once I've gotten positive results from kino.. THEN I kiss her. I didn't mean that I only got a positive result from the kiss once.

Maybe things are different in India.
 

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Check your PM's, discuss there rather than changing the subject of this thread.
 
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