"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Judging Interest Level

ladodger32

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I just posted about this, but I look back now and realize how incredibly stupid the post looks...anyways...lemme rephrase...there is a girl I am into who I am having trouble determining the interest level of. Is there an effective and non-lame way to ask if she is interested? What are some ways to test interest level effectively (mainly tho I want to know if there is a way to find out verbally)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Shocker

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Nike, just do it. Ask her out.
 

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Iv hung out w/ her once before, and I have plans to go out with her again. My question is, when out with her or talking with her, how do I judge if im viewed as a friend or in a more romantic way?
 

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more kino. Put your arm around her back. See if she stays very close to you (bumping into you) or keeps her distance. Look for the IOIs, like playing with hair, biting lip, etc.

Kino is really the answer here though.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Schocker put it right..

The best way to judge is Kino.....

Not only that she is comfortable with your touch , but she should touch you as well , like playing with your hair etc
 

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IOI's, test the water.
This sounds ballsy, but tell her to close her eyes, you've got a surprise and kiss her :]
 

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Not getting personal , but have you ever tried your suggestion ,kiko-???

You'd probably get a slap for that one , not to mention the possiblity of a harasment suit on an extreme case.
 

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Yes, I have. Of course once I've gotten positive results, but yeah.

Be positive.




The kiss isn't meant to be french, just a peck on the lips.
 

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just tried it once????
the cick must really be in you , other wise you'd never get away with it with positive results (i.e not an expression of shock on her face)...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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No, I meant i try it once I've gotten positive results from kino.. THEN I kiss her. I didn't mean that I only got a positive result from the kiss once.

Maybe things are different in India.
 

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Check your PM's, discuss there rather than changing the subject of this thread.
 
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