"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Jordan Peterson nailed it in this video !!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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As for picking up girls, if you google pictures of his wife, it'll become clear that he is anything but an expert on the subject...
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They've been married for 30 years, that's nothing to sneeze at. She probably looked a lot better when they met. At least she's not fat. Maybe he's attracted to her for her mind.
But he's a psychologist, not a pickup guru.
I like him because he seems to be grounded in good masculine views.
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His wife is crazy fit.
His daughter quite beautiful and fit too. And she has her own blog where she put "sexy" pose there
. (Underwear and sport bra). For a Teenage mother, she's great, Her blog about mental health and food.Still i love JP
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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This video doesn’t play on my phone, while the second video in this thread does. I see HTML five wrapping around the video, which is not clickable.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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In this video he gets pretty abstract as is his tendency. I like Jordan overall but it can take him forever to get to his point. He speaks very parenthetically.
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PUAs actually aspire to be psychopaths. I'm sure you've read all that stuff about how women are attracted to the Dark Triad traits. These are the behaviors they're trying to emulate, many of them anyway. Jordan is spot on.