"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jophil. Must read especially for Master DJ's.

speed dawg

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Lost a good one. Jophil was one of the best.

Money cannot buy what I have learned from this site and guys like Jophil. Very sad day indeed.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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ThunderMaverick

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I've never wrote anything like this for anyone, but I feel like I lost a mentor and a comrade, even though I didn't agree with some of the things he said.

To not say anything about his sickness speaks volumes about his constitution. He never wanted us to see him complain or make excuses. What a guy :(

I will miss you, Jo. I hope you are at peace wherever you are.
 

women haze

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One of the best Posters on this site, his topics and Postings was def an eye opener for me...

Out of respect for what he posted maybe we should add Jop's words to the DJ bible ...I am sure new members would benefit from some of the stuff he posted...

RIP man
 

DMSR76

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I really regret hearing this. Jophil was a man that you could always rely on to say something "spot-on" in a thread. He always weighed-in on topics with great balance. His insight and wisdom will be missed.

It's a blessing that he doesn't have to suffer anymore.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WhitePimp

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Always had great advice, and seemed like a genuinely good guy.

Hope he's pulling ass somewhere peaceful and beautiful...

RIP
 

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RIP Jophil...!

...even though we had words and didn't always see eye to eye...i thank for your comments.

See you on the other side Friend!
 

Fuglydude

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RIP.

Never thought he was that ill. Tough guy for never complaining about it even though it was warranted. I never knew him well, but valued his insights and wisdom... He was a great contributor to the forum and he will be missed by all.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I had an argument on here once with Jophill...when I was newish to this forum. I really was a tool at the time, but he never lost his cool. As time went on I got to really like the bloke and what he had to say.
In fact - I made a beeline for his most recent posts everytime I logged on.
I cant quite believe the fella is gone. I will miss his posts immensley.
Rest in peace mate.
 

Jeffst1980

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Jophil was truly a poster that embodied the kind of man we all want to emulate: an inspirational leader, a direct yet respectful communicator, and a wise teacher. Truly sad news- he will be greatly missed.
 

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Dear 5String,
It is winter here,last night a gale blew our Radar Tower down at work,what a miserable night....then this morning your terrible news....I was feeling so sorry for myself with a crook back,a Cold and the prospect of Snow tonight....In some strange way this News makes me appreciate what I often take for granted....Makes you realise that all around us there are colleagues and mates,heroes in their way,making a brave face of pretty dreadful situations....We shall miss him greatly,with all his problems he still found time to mentor young guys on here,to give advice to Lone Fathers and to his Dance group...May he this moment,be whirling around tripping the light fantastic toe in Paradises Ballroom in the Sky.
 

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Amen Scaramouche, Amen.

RIP Jophil. Your wisdom and true fit in the sosuave community was appreciated by us all.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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HoneyHitter

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Nothing but respect for Jophil. Thanks for your valuable contributions and guidance. RIP Jophil.
 

Wilko

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Damn, now that puts a few things in their proper perspective.

This guy stoically and unflinchingly faces down cancer and ultimately his own death, and I'm actually worrying about flakes and rejection?!

Well sh!t, I think I'd be dishonouring his memory by continuing to b!tch out like that. It stops.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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