Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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Interesting ten minute video.
I refuse to fap. I makes me feel unmanly. I can relate to what Joe is saying because that is how i feel. I would lower my standards to get a release. I'd rather do that then fap though. Feel like a total loser after fapping.
I think porn in moderation sometimes gives you that urge & need to go out & find woman to fuk like the sloots they are!I didn’t masturbate or even looked at naked woman from summer 2018 - summer 2019 for almost a year.
I didn’t notice higher libido an I felt like my sex drive completely died.
I’m not against no fap but it just didn’t give me the results I expected and I didn’t get superpowers from it.
Several months of not masturbating is not healthy for you. Holding in something that needs to be released naturally is not a good idea. Remember masturbation is not a problem, excessive masturbation on porn is.This was not true for me. I had much greater sexual control and stamina after several months absention.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can confirm this, I abstained from everything for 45 days, and after spending the night with a woman, It was like the mount sinabung volcano eruption.....I felt like I was on rave drugswith the climax being that much better.
Haha that reminds me of a few years back when I abstained from porn and masturbation as well, and I was a little more than 30 days in before I had sex for the first time during the streak...I can confirm this, I abstained from everything for 45 days, and after spending the night with a woman, It was like the mount sinabung volcano eruption.....I felt like I was on rave drugs
it truly is biblical, I remember the orgasm started about 15 seconds before I even busted, I'm on another streak now, so i cure my hand grip issueHaha that reminds me of a few years back when I abstained from porn and masturbation as well, and I was a little more than 30 days in before I had sex for the first time during the streak...
Using studies is a handy excuse when you don't want to do/believe anything.Studies are mixed. People want to have this be some revelation but it just isn't supported via studies.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
And being able (or developing the ability) to delay gratification builds self-discipline and self-discipline allows you to focus on a particular task or goal without impulsively being pulled away by the urge to fulfil basic desires.No fap is likely the easiest way to practice delayed gratification.
And delayed gratification spills over into other areas.