Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Interesting ten minute video.
I refuse to fap. I makes me feel unmanly. I can relate to what Joe is saying because that is how i feel. I would lower my standards to get a release. I'd rather do that then fap though. Feel like a total loser after fapping.
I think porn in moderation sometimes gives you that urge & need to go out & find woman to fuk like the sloots they are!I didn’t masturbate or even looked at naked woman from summer 2018 - summer 2019 for almost a year.
I didn’t notice higher libido an I felt like my sex drive completely died.
I’m not against no fap but it just didn’t give me the results I expected and I didn’t get superpowers from it.
Several months of not masturbating is not healthy for you. Holding in something that needs to be released naturally is not a good idea. Remember masturbation is not a problem, excessive masturbation on porn is.This was not true for me. I had much greater sexual control and stamina after several months absention.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I can confirm this, I abstained from everything for 45 days, and after spending the night with a woman, It was like the mount sinabung volcano eruption.....I felt like I was on rave drugswith the climax being that much better.
Haha that reminds me of a few years back when I abstained from porn and masturbation as well, and I was a little more than 30 days in before I had sex for the first time during the streak...I can confirm this, I abstained from everything for 45 days, and after spending the night with a woman, It was like the mount sinabung volcano eruption.....I felt like I was on rave drugs
it truly is biblical, I remember the orgasm started about 15 seconds before I even busted, I'm on another streak now, so i cure my hand grip issueHaha that reminds me of a few years back when I abstained from porn and masturbation as well, and I was a little more than 30 days in before I had sex for the first time during the streak...
Using studies is a handy excuse when you don't want to do/believe anything.Studies are mixed. People want to have this be some revelation but it just isn't supported via studies.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
And being able (or developing the ability) to delay gratification builds self-discipline and self-discipline allows you to focus on a particular task or goal without impulsively being pulled away by the urge to fulfil basic desires.No fap is likely the easiest way to practice delayed gratification.
And delayed gratification spills over into other areas.