Jesse Pinkman's approach/field reports thread.

[SW15]

Going out solo is a pain.

I have done it before. It's a meh to me.

It's my only option because I don't have anyone in my life willing to accompany me to bars. That's been the case for many years as my friends have married off and formed families.

Solo approaching is a better fit for non-bar venues. Non-bar approaching has its own set of downsides.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Going out solo is a pain.

How so? I always enjoyed it. Got laid more than a few times that way.

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

How so? I always enjoyed it. Got laid more than a few times that way.

Share some strategies then man!

 

[Vanderdonck]

Share some strategies then man!

1. Go out. 2. Sit down at or hang out around the bar. 3. Talk to people, particularly women you find attractive. There's not much to it but most men won't do it.

I'm not really a club guy, so it was always venues where chatting is possible. Also - works better on weeknights (esp. Thursday) then on weekends. Helps a lot if it's a local bar and your bartenders know you.

What do you think it's a pain?

 

[Jesse Pinkman]

1. Go out. 2. Sit down at or hang out around the bar. 3. Talk to people, particularly women you find attractive. There's not much to it but most men won't do it.

I'm not really a club guy, so it was always venues where chatting is possible. Also - works better on weeknights (esp. Thursday) then on weekends. Helps a lot if it's a local bar and your bartenders know you.

What do you think it's a pain?

I think I find it hard to talk to dudes in most cases and am just now getting out of that rut. However, my game has been falling flat lately. I think a mixture of work stress and life circumstances will do that to you. Trying to get it mentally right.

 

[SW15]

work stress and life circumstances will do that to you.

White collar workers are stressed out right now. White collar work has been in a recession since 2023. White collar layoffs are rising.

https://www.axios.com/2025/03/11/employee-confidence-labor-jobs-doge

It's a bad time to be a white collar worker.

A lot of white collar workers are married. Married men often lose their wives when layoffs happen. Men with unmarried girlfriends are the first ones to get broken with up in a job loss. Married women rarely ever see their husbands file for divorce. Unmarried women rarely will lose a boyfriend over a job loss.

 

[Vanderdonck]

I think I find it hard to talk to dudes in most cases and am just now getting out of that rut. However, my game has been falling flat lately. I think a mixture of work stress and life circumstances will do that to you. Trying to get it mentally right.

I hear that. Probably like anything else, just a habit I get into or out of. Also if something good happens it can make me more social. If I'm in a rut I don't feel like being out. Maybe I shouldn't let those circumstances dictate my social life so much.

 

[CornbreadFed]

How often do you run in to guys that tell you they cold approach women, but just sit there in a corner and do nothing and actually say nothing to women when you bring women to them? My friend goes out but literally does this and makes excuses on why he can’t be successful instead of actually trying. It’s like showing up to class and just focusing on your phone the whole time.

 

[Rainman4707]

I have tried recently to to open women with a simple 'hey'. I prefer that, it dose'nt come off as desperate/needy as a typical Neil Strauss/Mystery opener. However i've found it to be unsucessful compared to PUA openers.
The typical PUA opener grabs her attention more, stops her in her tracks more.
The smile and 'hey' that a lot of guys reconmennd just dose'nt work, she just gets awkward and continues on her way.
"hey can i get your opinion on something works a LOT more in my experience.

 

[Rainman4707]

How often do you run in to guys that tell you they cold approach women, but just sit there in a corner and do nothing and actually say nothing to women when you bring women to them? My friend goes out but literally does this and makes excuses on why he can’t be successful instead of actually trying. It’s like showing up to class and just focusing on your phone the whole time.

It would depend on where we were sat i.e if my friends were bringing a woman to me then sat there as a spectator, it would'nt suit me. I like to get personal with a women. I would'nt feel comfortable with a guy sitting there watching.

 

[SW15]

How often do you run in to guys that tell you they cold approach women, but just sit there in a corner and do nothing and actually say nothing to women when you bring women to them?

Never.

The men that I know in real life are generally married men who haven't been approaching in 10+ years.

Some of those men had to use dating websites/dating apps in order to get into their current relationship. Others got into it from social circle. There are some men in my circle who did get into their current relationship off of a bar approach.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Never.

The men that I know in real life are generally married men who haven't been approaching in 10+ years.

Some of those men had to use dating websites/dating apps in order to get into their current relationship. Others got into it from social circle. There are some men in my circle who did get into their current relationship off of a bar approach.

Any guys you that was successful off a non bar cold approach