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This is true. Women don't have enough testosterone to make it true. Testosterone is a big regulator of sex drive.

Women have a stronger sex drive when they are ovulating. The problem is that most women are on birth control and not ovulating.

Female sex drive is more difficult to understand than male sex drive. Women do want sex and some have strong sex drives. However, even with male testosterone rates dropping, women still don't have as much testosterone. Athletic females who lift weights (even without clenbuterol or steroids) experience a small amount of increased sex drive but not as much as a man with healthy habits and young age.



His energy and aggressiveness were not on point due to having masturbated earlier in the day. A no fap practice does increase aggressiveness to a point.



The bolded part has been the biggest issue with me over time as I am someone who seeks extended relationships more than solely casual, fleeting bangs. You're mostly correct that getting rejected sooner than later is better due to time savings but a rejection is still a rejection. Rejection stinks. The best idea is to avoid it for as long as you can. Form the relationship, extract all value from it, and if it ends after some sexual success and ran its natural course, that is a good outcome.
I agree with everything you said to a degree. You're talking more about the chemistry and hormones of females and males. I'm referring to more of the mindset of both sexes. Women fantasize and imagine sexual thoughts just as much if not more than men. There are about 2000 more neurons in a womans ****oris then the head of a penis. OP masturbating the day of can simply be overpowered if his mindset is where it should be. That's like Lebron James saying he didn't perform well because he didn't eat his normal pre game meal. Chances are he's gonna play to kill and win the game!
 

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I agree with everything you said to a degree. You're talking more about the chemistry and hormones of females and males. I'm referring to more of the mindset of both sexes. Women fantasize and imagine sexual thoughts just as much if not more than men. There are about 2000 more neurons in a womans ****oris then the head of a penis.
The discussion becomes how much chemistry and hormones affect mindset. I believe that there's a strong influence there.

Men think about sex nearly twice as much as women according to this research.


The neurons in cliitoris vs a penis could be relevant.

OP masturbating the day of can simply be overpowered if his mindset is where it should be. That's like Lebron James saying he didn't perform well because he didn't eat his normal pre game meal. Chances are he's gonna play to kill and win the game!
No porn and no fap have been important to me in my attracting-seducing game.
 

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So tomorrow will actually tell how it all went but everyone in this thread has had a point so far. However, I cannot help but blame my lack of killer instinct on the date on me fapping. Tomorrow will be day 3 of no fap for me if I make it through tonight which, by the way, can be quite the stretch. Man, I don't know how some dudes are able to do NoFap for a month!

I also had two killer interviews today and one for a role which, if it goes my way, will have me earning over 150k but there needs to be 4 more steps to it and I have a lot of prep to do. If that does happen though, man I am getting a place in a more ideal area with better logistics because my current logistics are largely mediocre. From what I hear, rents could potentially decrease in Miami by EOY which would be a godsend but I am not holding out hope for that.

Today, I wanted to go out and daygame but had a ton to do for the interviews. Tomorrow, I should be in a much much better spot. I could do daygame before my date that rescheduled from Thursday to Wednesday.
 

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I don't know how some dudes are able to do NoFap for a month!
NoFap is the most difficult thing I've ever done. NoFap is more difficult than obtaining either of my academic degrees. No porn and no fap is more difficult than not using illicit drugs or drinking alcohol. My biggest key to success in no porn and no fap is getting laid at least semi-regularly. Getting laid helps keep those no fap streaks going.

From what I hear, rents could potentially decrease in Miami by EOY which would be a godsend but I am not holding out hope for that.
I hope that happens in Dallas too.

if it goes my way, will have me earning over 150k....I am getting a place in a more ideal area with better logistics because my current logistics are largely mediocre.
Logistics matter the most in terms of one night stands from bars. They matter less in non-bar approaching so long as you are semi-close to an area of the metro with a decent concentration of single people. You're probably close enough to the places where you do your non-bar approaching and where most of the single women in your target market in Miami live.

tomorrow will actually tell how it all went but everyone in this thread has had a point so far.
Hope there is a 2nd date. It'd be good if she shows up for it. There's never any guarantees on that.
 

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The discussion becomes how much chemistry and hormones affect mindset. I believe that there's a strong influence there.

Men think about sex nearly twice as much as women according to this research.


The neurons in cliitoris vs a penis could be relevant.



No porn and no fap have been important to me in my attracting-seducing game.
I am definitely a believer in no fap and what it can do for men. It's similar to fasting. A man who can control his sexual desires is a powerful man. I'm all for it. My point is that you can no fap for years, but if you aren't confident, self assured, and possess a strong enough backbone to handle whatever is throw at you, then your no fap doesn't mean anything. I've gone to the club right after busting in a girls mouth and actually felt even more confident to approach more women. So how do you explain that? lol

Women think about sex just as much as men, it's just a different process. Men can get aroused instantly off visuals while women take time to warm up and are more imaginative with their sexual fantasies.

The whole point behind being "red pill" is understanding the true nature and sexual duplicity of women. Sexual duplicity is when you hide your true kinky sexual nature from people by appearing to be a "good girl" or "wifey material", when really she fantasizes about getting ****ed down by two guys at once, or getting erotically dominated by a complete stranger. This is true for most women in society. If you believe that women only fall into two categories (slutty promiscuous or good monogamous type girls) then you suffer from the Madonna/***** complex.

I'm sharing this as an invitation to swallow that red pill and accept and understand the true nature of women. This is one of the first major keys to being successful with women. Those who don't accept this reality sometimes turn into Incel or misogynists' types out of spite. They can't believe that there girlfriend of two years still fantasizes about scenarios that don't involve them! I see a lot of clueless dudes on here who would benefit extremely from this type of knowledge
 

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Tomorrow will be day 3 of no fap for me if I make it through tonight which, by the way, can be quite the stretch. Man, I don't know how some dudes are able to do NoFap for a month!
I’d only recommend NoFap for guys with consistent sex lol. I only do it purely for performance reasons. I’ll break it for dates with new girls to not appear horny af lol.
 

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NoFap is the most difficult thing I've ever done. NoFap is more difficult than obtaining either of my academic degrees. No porn and no fap is more difficult than not using illicit drugs or drinking alcohol. My biggest key to success in no porn and no fap is getting laid at least semi-regularly. Getting laid helps keep those no fap streaks going.
I’d only recommend NoFap for guys with consistent sex lol. I only do it purely for performance reasons.
We are basically saying the same thing. Try something like 6-15 weeks of no porn, no masturbation, and no sex. Imagine how you'll feel. It's not the best feeling.
 

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We are basically saying the same thing. Try something like 6-15 weeks of no porn, no masturbation, and no sex. Imagine how you'll feel. It's not the best fee
lmao I just now noticed that. I’m not going 6-15 weeks without busting a nut. I’m still prone to dry spells.
 

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Try 4-8 wks with no fap no porn. I doubt there are more than 10 percent of men that have ever done this. 98 percent of men report internet porn use in the past 6 mos.
 

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A week of utter failure.

Alright dudes, this week has been absolute crap for me. I have barely made it to day 3 each time of no fap. Have avoided porn but whenever day 3 comes I end up fapping, like I did this morning in bed thinking about a past sexual experience. I have also found it tough to go out to game for daygame as well. I need to get it together.

The one highlight is that I did hit the gym and workout, ran 3 miles non-stop and did so in the South Florida heat. My 1 mile time is now right at 8 minutes. I have also lost a few more pounds as well.

Outside of all that, trash week and highly unproductive. Way too much time wasted.
 

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A week of utter failure.

Alright dudes, this week has been absolute crap for me. I have barely made it to day 3 each time of no fap. Have avoided porn but whenever day 3 comes I end up fapping, like I did this morning in bed thinking about a past sexual experience. I have also found it tough to go out to game for daygame as well. I need to get it together.

The one highlight is that I did hit the gym and workout, ran 3 miles non-stop and did so in the South Florida heat. My 1 mile time is now right at 8 minutes. I have also lost a few more pounds as well.

Outside of all that, trash week and highly unproductive. Way too much time wasted.
I don't consider this a failure. When I'm not sexually active I try to go once every 3 days or I end up doing stupid stuff lol. I used to run and I got my mile time down to 6 minutes to be competitive for Officer Candidate School. I stopped running because I would always kill myself to get the lowest time and I get cramps easily so I would have to time my runs perfectly. Walking on the treadmill for 45 minutes or outside has been much better for me lol.
 

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I don't consider this a failure. When I'm not sexually active I try to go once every 3 days or I end up doing stupid stuff lol. I used to run and I got my mile time down to 6 minutes to be competitive for Officer Candidate School. I stopped running because I would always kill myself to get the lowest time and I get cramps easily so I would have to time my runs perfectly. Walking on the treadmill for 45 minutes or outside has been much better for me lol.
I also swam this week.

Anyways, definitely having a go at it today.
 

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Almost forgot to mention that @SmoothHendrixPS2 ended up being right, the day of the date my girl texts me and tells me she is not feeling it, says she wants something else and so the date doesn't happen. Rough week, time to pick myself up and get back at it.
That sucks, but she saved you from investing more time and money. I take that as a win
 

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Almost forgot to mention that @SmoothHendrixPS2 ended up being right, the day of the date my girl texts me and tells me she is not feeling it, says she wants something else and so the date doesn't happen. Rough week, time to pick myself up and get back at it.
At least she was honest with you. Most girls wouldn't be that up front and straightforward.
 

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9/2/22: It gets lonely at the top.

How to even start this. So today was, well, today. I do not even know how to describe it other than a unique day. I got a lot done as I wait for my new job to start but then for lunch, I think I may have realize how much I underestimate my potential allergy to lactose. I had a protein shake after an interview and was knocked out. I went right back to sleep and took an hour long nap and this after getting up later than I want in the morning.

A wing from the group was supposed to meet me and it looked promising but this dude just ended up bailing. More on the group later.

Whatever though, whatever. Somehow, managed to make it out before 8 PM to my regular spot and after a week of not approaching, what do I do? Well, I end up sitting down at a table and just sort of chilling. A couple with a dog (Golden Retriever) came and good lord, folks at the bar were bothering that dog left and right trying to pet it and be its friend. Ya might wanna get on getting your future best friend @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 lol.

Then I saw something, three loud fratty looking guys and one of them approaches a table. One of them had an Alabama hat, lol get your boy @Jake_Gyllenhaal69 bro. Dude lasted a while as I had not even opened. It just made me sort of get an extra bit of motivation in me as I was sipping on my drink. Seriously, this Greek Life imbecile and not me? Needless to say this idiot fails.

The bar I am at has cornhole so I play it. Some blonde chick in a hat is playing with a dude and we play for fun at the busy bar, not even knowing each other lol. We can barely hear each other and all that stuff but it was fun but afterwards, she pretended like she didn't even know me. Keep blondie with hat in mind.

I approach a set nearby, two blondes (one taller than me DESPITE me being 5'11 lol) and open. Dude who is drunk tells me "bbbrrrooo she is into you!" about the tall blonde. I play it off saying "haha, man I am just looking for teammates in this game". So we play cornhole, tall blonde on my team. It is going decent but blonde in hat hovers nearby and distracts tall blonde on my team. ????

Some short dudes are talking to blonde in hat and she tries to drag the tall one in. It goes well but the group saves me telling their friend to play. Tall blonde is back in it. It goes on for a bit but then I try to Instaclose the blonde because I am like wtf, blonde in hat is NOT letting up. Tall blonde says "yeah to be honest, not interested". Whatever....still, whatever lol.

I go to get another drunk and then get a good vibe going with a brunette also taller than me. Dude, WTF, I am 5'11 WTF man. King Of Manlets indeed I guess lol. We get a good convo going but her gay friend is in line for drinks. However, he gets the drinks and leads the set elsewhere. Well that is that.

I open a few more sets that are short convos but then open two girls having food. They are both brunettes and it goes really well but then for some reason, I choke and bail. Unlike daygame, nightgame is rough without a wing. So anyways, I end up walking away since I was on my own and got nervous. It has to do with the long layoff because the girls were pretty cool and everything. A wing would have been phenomenal but more on that later.

Then I open more sets which are decent but not the best. I notice a dude nearby who was getting blown out and we bump into each other. Dude looks Brazilian or something and says "yo man, I see you macking". We chat and stuff, he is a promoter at a major nightclub. I open some sets for him and all and they go alright, we get some IGs left and right which mean jack.

However, then I realize as we open a set with one hot blonde and two fat chicks that the blonde is not as interested. My freaking promoter fan for half an hour is super into the fat chick. Like BRO, you're a promoter, what's the point of talking to fatties? Dear lord I feel so done with the night.

Then I notice dudes in the pickup group I am in roll in a pack and just stand around talking to each other. This is pointless. I realize that there is a reason that Miami is a daygame city. However, I got out of my rut and approached so I am happy about that. More approaching to be done on Labor Day weekend.

I approach a set as I am out the bar and the girl is a total b1tch, whatever you freaking bum. Now for more daygame on the weekend.
 

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Before I go to bed with a night full of blowouts and screw ups, all my fault by the way, I wanted to talk a little bit more about how lonely it is at the top and just cutting the cord. I left the pickup group I am a part of and everything. In Robert Greene's book, I believe it was Laws of Human Nature of maybe 33 Strategies of War, I read about a Spanish Conquistador (likely Pizzaro from my memory). Basically, the ships were docked at the bay and his crew were not being driven enough. The guy decides to cut the rope to where the crew have no way back to Spain.

I feel like that was me.

I feel like so much whether it is "wingmen" or even forums like these, they are just that, comfort talks. We use them as a security blanket but sometimes they almost stop us from our true ceiling. For weeks, I have been winging with losers who decided to just stand around and scratch their a$$ as I did the opening. I felt like I was not hitting my potential.

It's like the scene in the final Batman film where he tries to get out from under the underground prison but the rope is getting in the way. I cut the rope.

Yeah, it sounds weird but I am going to solo this whole thing. I now get what @SW15 was saying when he said that good wingmen are tough to find. I have found maybe a couple I can consistently rely on but the rest just get drunk and barely approach, other than ruining sets. Yeah, I am that guy now.

I am going to try and solo a city that is run on clout and status.

I cut the rope and whatever happens, it happens.

This is why older men say it is so lonely at the top and how quickly you can burn bridges. However, I am going to give it my best solo and see where that takes me. More daygame field reports to come in the coming days. Let's get it dudes.
 

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8/27/22 - An amazing date.

Due to the events of the previous night, I ended up sleeping in a ton on Saturday. I did however have a date planned for later in the afternoon and it was from Bumble. Before that, I was largely just in my bed watching TV because I was spent from that night of drinking. Unfortunately @SW15 I thought of that one time I had this skinny blonde riding me in her tiny NYC apartment and that just gave me a raging erection, bye bye no fap. Still, show up to the date and she is taking a while to get there but she finally does.

She had on those white shorts with a dark blue shirt that went so well for her. Somehow she was able to tan real easy in the sun because her pics on Bumble show her as pale as a ghost. She had brunette hair with those bright blue eyes and pale skin that has freckles. We sit down for coffee and I comment on her blue color saying that it says a lot about a woman who is wearing blue, the fact that she is a bit cautious and careful about things.

Then she asks me then what does red say, I tell her that red means she is the type to go head first into things and worry about consequences later. She tells me how red describes her better and I start to get the subtext a bit from sexualizing this conversation. Overall, a really cool girl. Not any of the woke types despite being a young brunette from Maryland of all places. Tells me how Baltimore never really recovered from the riots during the pandemic and how common it was for people to get mugged in it.

I tell her about a fancy new place that opened that is all outdoors and we should check it out. She is all for it and we finish and then talk the long walk over. I put my arm around her with little resistance and she puts hers around mines. The place is near a Marina with scenic views and I stop when we are like almost there to show her that view. I then go for the kiss close and she is down for it. It was a heck of a kiss.

Then I bring up the dog in her pics and she tells me about her dog. I then use that as an excuse and tell her "well, okay, too much hype I need to meet your best friend now". She laughs and says "my best friend is not a first date type of girl". I laugh a bit and then walk with her more. We go to the restaurant but there is a long wait time so I say screw it. Only place open is the bar and a Saturday night bar in Miami? No way I am dealing with a horny dude trying to come at my date that is already going well.

I then walk her home and it is a good convo as we are walking. I ask her for her schedule in the coming week and she gives it to me, tells me about what she will be doing and when she is free. Soon after that, we agree that we will meet again at a bar. As she is in her area, I kiss close her again. She tells me it was enjoyable.

TBH, I am shocked it went so well for me since I once again rubbed one out earlier in the day.
Honestly that's all in your mind...I haven't found any correlation to how a date goes based on whether I jacked off or not that day.
 

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Certified Brunette Cuties™ are my favorite. This is the kind of girl I'd consider 10 out of 10:
She looks very Avril Lavigne ish from back in the day...I used to have a major crush on her growing up...she just seemed so...openly dirty and sexual...like she would be willing to do whatever the girl you were dating wasn't.
 
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