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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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make a move next time you and her are alone...give her a hug, then look into her eyes and kiss her on the lips...if she turns away or doesn't like it, you've got your answer...perseverance said:
and for God's sake DO NOT tell her about your feelings for her...show her.
as an aside, do you have any reason to belive she has any feelings for you as more than a friend?
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Ugh, you like a friend? My condolences.
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.