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Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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make a move next time you and her are alone...give her a hug, then look into her eyes and kiss her on the lips...if she turns away or doesn't like it, you've got your answer...perseverance said:
and for God's sake DO NOT tell her about your feelings for her...show her.
as an aside, do you have any reason to belive she has any feelings for you as more than a friend?
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Ugh, you like a friend? My condolences.
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.