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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
marmel75
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make a move next time you and her are alone...give her a hug, then look into her eyes and kiss her on the lips...if she turns away or doesn't like it, you've got your answer...perseverance said:
and for God's sake DO NOT tell her about your feelings for her...show her.
as an aside, do you have any reason to belive she has any feelings for you as more than a friend?
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Harry Wilmington
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Ugh, you like a friend? My condolences.
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
LoL - seriously, though: in my AFC days I actually had a few girls who were friends that I was thisclose to screwing... but then I ruined it by either verbally expressing how I felt or having the opportunity to make the move but not taking it at the right time.
Here's a trick I did one time, only it wasn't a trick but what was actually happening. During my sophomore year in college I was on a dating roll one week where I had gone out with 3 girls in 4 days. I was visiting my one of my girl friends in her dorm room, and mentioned to her that I had gone on this successful string of dates and was just having fun going out with new people that I hadn't even considered before.
Then, I looked at her and said, in a very nonchalant way: "Hey, you know what? We should go out on a date, it would probably be kind of fun!"
She paused for about 5 seconds, then said... "yeah, sure, we should do something sometime!" I ended up taking her out the next week, and sure enough it was fun! (A couple years later we almost ended up hooking up as well, right before I c-blocked myself... but that's a whole 'nother story.)
It really is as simple as asking sometime. Remember: girls LIKE feeling desired AND like having fun. You don't have to go into some big speech about how you like her and think you two might have a future together - just make it a thing where you're curious about what MIGHT happen on a date with you and her, and see if she's down for some fun!
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.