I've Become Desensitized to Rejection. But How?

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Alright, so..

We all know that the sting of rejection from a woman is REAL.

It is indeed one of the gut-wrenching feelings that a man can ever experience.

It is ego-crushing.

However, just take it from the Godfather of Direct Verbal Game, the legendary Alan Roger Currie (ARC).

RIP.

ARC is the founder of Mode One Philosophy.

I watched one of his (many) videos, and he shared his thoughts on the concept of rejection.

He said that most people think that because of his many successes with women, he doesn't get rejected a lot.

He said that that is a HUGE misconception.

He stated that quite the contrary, he has been rejected more times than most of his followers...and more times than the average man.

To put it in perspective, he said that over the course of his life, he has approached literally THOUSANDS of women....so do you know how many rejections he has experienced over the course of those many thousands (rhetorical question).

The reason why he has been rejected so many times, according to him, is because...

1. He does not fear rejection. Certainly, he doesn't like being rejected. But rejection is something that he does not fear.

2. To piggyback off #1, since he does not fear rejection, he does not mind placing himself in the position to be rejected.

He stated that he does not mind giving a woman every bit of opportunity to reject him (boss sh!t).

He stated that since most men fear rejection, they don't place themselves in positions to be rejected, which is why they go Mode 2 when speaking to women or they simply do not approach women at all (like most of you mf'ers on here).

If you look at the NBA's all-time leaders in field goal makes, you will see that those same players who rank among the leaders of that category, also are among the leaders in field goal attempts (obviously).

Thousands among thousands of attempts, makes, and misses.

In other words, not only do they keep shooting, they have the confidence to KEEP shooting, even when they miss.

In closing on that note, I will leave a quote I saw on in the comment section on one of ARC's videos..

"If you aint being rejected, then you simply ain't playing the game."

In other words, rejection is part of the game.

More on how this relates to me in the next post..
 

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So, how does all that relate to me?

Before I reveal what I need to reveal, a disclaimer...

I have a breast fetish. I am a breast fanatic.

I love the way breasts look and feel.

I have a breast-sucking fetish. I love sucking breasts, sometimes even more than sex.

I am a breast-addicted fanatic.

My drive for breasts had me starting a breast-erotica website. And upon pursuing that journey, I became a major internet sensation in the world of breasts.

I gained a major following on porn websites as it related to my content.

My content consisted of simulated candid (voyeur) footage, followed by breasts sucking.

My content received millions of views, and hundreds of thousands of subscribers.

I am no longer in the game now, but when I was, I was the MAN.

The feedback that I received from consumers/subscribers had been through the roof...and damn near all of my videos had been jacked and posted by others...some of which pretended it was their sh!t.

I just wanted to add that disclaimer to this thread.
 

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Noted. You already know my position so I am not going to restate it here.
 

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Again, how did I become desensitized to rejection? A couple reasons..

1. My desire for breasts outweighed any fear I had of rejection.

2. I needed women for my website, so I had to go out in the public domain to get the women.

Before I knew anything about the concept of cold approaching women or even Mode One philosophy, I was out there approaching women (strangers), and giving them the business pitch in an effort to see if they would model for my website.

Yes, I would go up to busty women and basically say "I am creating a breast erotica website, and you qualify..can I pay you to do a session".

After approaching hundreds of women in these efforts, I've become desensitized to rejection.

And the point that I keep stressing to you guys is this; 97% of all women of whom I approached to do a session, did NOT give me a negative or adverse reaction to my offer.

97% of them would either accept the offer, or politely decline.

No gray area.

So, if I can ask a woman (stranger) to do a session for my breast erotica website, then asking a woman for her phone # is a piece of cake...thus, desensitizing me from any fear of rejection.

Reminds me of former drug dealer turned real estate mogul Jay Morrison.

He said that he isn't afraid to lose money in real estate, because in the drug game, he ran the risk of losing money, his life, and his freedom.

So, if he had just come from placing himself in a position to lose money, his life, and his freedom, then losing money in real estate is NOTHING to him.

That is how I feel.
 

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Alright, so..

We all know that the sting of rejection from a woman is REAL.

It is indeed one of the gut-wrenching feelings that a man can ever experience.

It is ego-crushing.

However, just take it from the Godfather of Direct Verbal Game, the legendary Alan Roger Currie (ARC).

RIP.

ARC is the founder of Mode One Philosophy.

I watched one of his (many) videos, and he shared his thoughts on the concept of rejection.

He said that most people think that because of his many successes with women, he doesn't get rejected a lot.

He said that that is a HUGE misconception.

He stated that quite the contrary, he has been rejected more times than most of his followers...and more times than the average man.

To put it in perspective, he said that over the course of his life, he has approached literally THOUSANDS of women....so do you know how many rejections he has experienced over the course of those many thousands (rhetorical question).

The reason why he has been rejected so many times, according to him, is because...

1. He does not fear rejection. Certainly, he doesn't like being rejected. But rejection is something that he does not fear.

2. To piggyback off #1, since he does not fear rejection, he does not mind placing himself in the position to be rejected.

He stated that he does not mind giving a woman every bit of opportunity to reject him (boss sh!t).

He stated that since most men fear rejection, they don't place themselves in positions to be rejected, which is why they go Mode 2 when speaking to women or they simply do not approach women at all (like most of you mf'ers on here).

If you look at the NBA's all-time leaders in field goal makes, you will see that those same players who rank among the leaders of that category, also are among the leaders in field goal attempts (obviously).

Thousands among thousands of attempts, makes, and misses.

In other words, not only do they keep shooting, they have the confidence to KEEP shooting, even when they miss.

In closing on that note, I will leave a quote I saw on in the comment section on one of ARC's videos..

"If you aint being rejected, then you simply ain't playing the game."

In other words, rejection is part of the game.

More on how this relates to me in the next post..
Same way anything happens. You do it over and over again and you realize that one rejection doesn't matter and it's the successes that continue to drive you past the individual rejections.

Also as you become more used to it and improved, the rejections get fewer and the successes get greater.

The person afraid to fail is actually the person who will never succeed. With women or with anything else in life.
 
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I have no problem with being rejected, I actually prefer a direct rejection to being led on (which happened a few times in my younger years).

I can name at least ten things a woman would find attractive in me, and at least ninety things she could find unattractive. I do realise that my attraction is a niche type of attraction, but my niche seems to be full of attractive women, so I don't care about the ninety percent of women who wouldn't be attracted to me. Most likely, I wouldn't be attracted to them either.

I'm pretty good nowadays in spotting when a woman is into me or not, so I don't get rejected much anymore, but I never was a mind reader so in my younger years I got rejected first, then softly rebuffed when I stopped when I felt resistance. Younger me tended to put on the persuasion when resisted, but where I used to be content with consent, nowadays I require enthusiastic participation, no lukewarm responses.

A rejection means that you have to step outside yourself and look if there's something to improve about yourself and your approach, or if you have to work on your social calibration because you chose to approach the wrong woman. Or chalk it up to the fluke factor.
 

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This was originally the trailer for my website.

A nice teaser meant to capture the essence of what the average man would see if he were shopping at Walmart.

Some women actually dress like this while shopping.

These were simulated candid sessions.

There were many more women than these, although, for whatever reason, I didn't get a "walking" session with those women to add to the trailer.

Breasts sucking sessions for most as well.

I have individual candid sessions for all women, available upon requests.

And this is why I love Walmart.

 

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Same way anything happens. You do it over and over again and you realize that one rejection doesn't matter and it's the successes that continue to drive you past the individual rejections.

Also as you become more used to it and improved, the rejections get fewer and the successes get greater.

The person afraid to fail is actually the person who will never succeed. With women or with anything else in life.
I feel this.

I don't mean to nitpick, because what you said is real sh!t.

My thing is; unless you are improving your physical self, there is nothing to improve on...because if you pass her "attraction" test, then you don't need to say much.

It is all about attraction, not game.
 

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Yes, I would go up to busty women and basically say "I am creating a breast erotica website, and you qualify..can I pay you to do a session".
Since you're framing it as a business proposition, it doesn't really count as a personal rejection, does it?
 

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I have no problem with being rejected, I actually prefer a direct rejection to being led on (which happened a few times in my younger years).
Me too.

I can name at least ten things a woman would find attractive in me, and at least ninety things she could find unattractive. I do realise that my attraction is a niche type of attraction, but my niche seems to be full of attractive women, so I don't care about the ninety percent of women who wouldn't be attracted to me. Most likely, I wouldn't be attracted to them either.
Improve your physical self and that 90% will drop to 70%, which is 20 more women that will find you attractive than before.

I'm pretty good nowadays in spotting when a woman is into me or not, so I don't get rejected much anymore
Yeah, but the problem with that is; not every woman will show signs of interest, yet, she could still be interested.

That is why you can't necessarily judge based on her attitude, demeanor, or signals.

Sure, if it is obvious either way, then so be it.

But you shouldn't rely on that alone.

And to be honest, you approaching her; the act in itself can make her attracted to you, even if she wasn't paying you any attention beforehand.

A rejection means that you have to step outside yourself and look if there's something to improve about yourself and your approach, or if you have to work on your social calibration because you chose to approach the wrong woman. Or chalk it up to the fluke factor.
If every man improves his physical self (hitting the gym), then the results will follow.
 

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I feel this.

I don't mean to nitpick, because what you said is real sh!t.

My thing is; unless you are improving your physical self, there is nothing to improve on...because if you pass her "attraction" test, then you don't need to say much.

It is all about attraction, not game.
To a degree. Attraction makes it easier and gets your foot in the door but without game you are still going to get shoved outside and the door slammed quickly enough if it turns out you aren't congruent with your looks. There are plenty of good looking guys who don't get laid because they have no game and the women lose interest before they get to that point.

Game allows you to linger longer and slowly turn the tide in your favor and once that happens you are good because you will know how to continue leading down the road you want to take them on.

Just being attractive in and of itself doesn't mean you know how to lead them down that path. You'll get more opportunities where the girl will walk with you, but if you constantly get lost or go down the wrong path it doesn't do you much good.
 

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Since you're framing it as a business proposition, it doesn't really count as a personal rejection, does it?
No.

But it helped desensitize me to rejection and approach anxiety, in general.

It helped propel me into a strong advocate of cold approaching today.
 

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To a degree. Attraction makes it easier and gets your foot in the door but without game you are still going to get shoved outside and the door slammed quickly enough if it turns out you aren't congruent with your looks. There are plenty of good looking guys who don't get laid because they have no game and the women lose interest before they get to that point.

Game allows you to linger longer and slowly turn the tide in your favor and once that happens you are good because you will know how to continue leading down the road you want to take them on.

Just being attractive in and of itself doesn't mean you know how to lead them down that path. You'll get more opportunities where the girl will walk with you, but if you constantly get lost or go down the wrong path it doesn't do you much good.
I agree...and what you say makes sense if you are a Mode 2 kind of guy.

But I am Mode One...quick, direct...in and out.

Not much time for game.

But I agree with you in theory.
 

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So, how does all that relate to me?

Before I reveal what I need to reveal, a disclaimer...

I have a breast fetish. I am a breast fanatic.

I love the way breasts look and feel.

I have a breast-sucking fetish. I love sucking breasts, sometimes even more than sex.

I am a breast-addicted fanatic.

My drive for breasts had me starting a breast-erotica website. And upon pursuing that journey, I became a major internet sensation in the world of breasts.

I gained a major following on porn websites as it related to my content.

My content consisted of simulated candid (voyeur) footage, followed by breasts sucking.

My content received millions of views, and hundreds of thousands of subscribers.

I am no longer in the game now, but when I was, I was the MAN.

The feedback that I received from consumers/subscribers had been through the roof...and damn near all of my videos had been jacked and posted by others...some of which pretended it was their sh!t.

I just wanted to add that disclaimer to this thread.

Yo @We_ArE_VeNOM either of these you?

(posts 4 and 5)

excerpts:

"There is one particularly Walmart on the South Side of Phoenix where I tend to make BANK, as busty women are just crawling in and out of the place. No matter what time of the day or night, if you go to this Walmart, you won't leave unhappy."


"I can't say enough about Walmart...I was actually driving into the Walmart plaza when I saw this big tittied queen just standing there next to the Lowe's.

I approached her with the hopes of giving her one of my business cards. She appeared a little stand-offish at first, but once we started talking, she let her guard down.

I told her what I wanted her for, which offended her lol...she then began to "school" me on how I "should" have approached her and how I "should" conduct business and blah blah blah.

All I wanted to do was to keep her talking, and once we got into a long conversation about whatever it is she was talking about, I took out my camera and began recording.

After a while, she noticed me recording her, so I stopped and we walked towards the Walmart where I gave her my card and we parted ways."


Some nice receipts in the second thread, whomever the OP is.
 
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Yo @We_ArE_VeNOM either of these you?

(posts 4 and 5)

excerpts:

"There is one particularly Walmart on the South Side of Phoenix where I tend to make BANK, as busty women are just crawling in and out of the place. No matter what time of the day or night, if you go to this Walmart, you won't leave unhappy."


"I can't say enough about Walmart...I was actually driving into the Walmart plaza when I saw this big tittied queen just standing there next to the Lowe's.

I approached her with the hopes of giving her one of my business cards. She appeared a little stand-offish at first, but once we started talking, she let her guard down.

I told her what I wanted her for, which offended her lol...she then began to "school" me on how I "should" have approached her and how I "should" conduct business and blah blah blah.

All I wanted to do was to keep her talking, and once we got into a long conversation about whatever it is she was talking about, I took out my camera and began recording.

After a while, she noticed me recording her, so I stopped and we walked towards the Walmart where I gave her my card and we parted ways."


Some nice receipts in the second thread, whomever the OP is.
Hell yeah that's me.

I was a prominent member of that forum, and it is in fact the best tits forum on the web today.

I got banned from the site because the moderator is a piece of sh!t, but check out some of my post/threads on the forum.

The forum in general is great.

And you mention that excerpt, there is a guy that actually jacked my candid video of her and uploaded it to his Xhamster channel and presented it like it is his sh!t.

What a bum.

A lot of that going on.
 

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You're living proof it's never too late to progress. Being 38 and getting over a fear of rejection is a perfect example that any of these dudes on here can do the same if they stop slackin'.
 
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Improve your physical self and that 90% will drop to 70%, which is 20 more women that will find you attractive than before.
The unattractive things about me would be things that are difficult to change. Some women want a guy with long hair or at least a full head of hair. Some women want a guy with pearly white teeth. Or clean-shaven. Or without tattoos. Or driving a luxury car. Or...

I think you catch my drift. Like I said, I'm in a niche regarding attraction. I like the women I attract, I'm not interested in changing myself or my appearance to attract more women that would be attracted to who I'm not. I enjoy my life and lifestyle and the women that come with it. Since I'm more or less involved with several women already, I'm not looking to add more women to the roster.

And to be honest, you approaching her; the act in itself can make her attracted to you, even if she wasn't paying you any attention beforehand.
Actually, women tend to approach me. I have abundance already, I don't care enough to be chasing skirts.
 

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The unattractive things about me would be things that are difficult to change. Some women want a guy with long hair or at least a full head of hair. Some women want a guy with pearly white teeth. Or clean-shaven. Or without tattoos. Or driving a luxury car. Or...

I think you catch my drift.
I catch your drift. Looks are very subjective.

I was more so speaking of muscle mass. Based on my experience, it works like hell.

I think the vast majority of women are attracted to a man that is EITHER lean or bulky (muscle mass).

And I am of the informed opinion that if you (in general) change that about yourself, then your success will reflect it.

Like I said, I'm in a niche regarding attraction. I like the women I attract, I'm not interested in changing myself or my appearance to attract more women that would be attracted to who I'm not. I enjoy my life and lifestyle and the women that come with it. Since I'm more or less involved with several women already, I'm not looking to add more women to the roster.
I'm the exact opposite , but I feel it.

Actually, women tend to approach me. I have abundance already, I don't care enough to be chasing skirts.
If you are a chick magnet like that, then I tip my hat to you.

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Alright, so..

We all know that the sting of rejection from a woman is REAL.

It is indeed one of the gut-wrenching feelings that a man can ever experience.

It is ego-crushing.

However, just take it from the Godfather of Direct Verbal Game, the legendary Alan Roger Currie (ARC).

RIP.

ARC is the founder of Mode One Philosophy.

I watched one of his (many) videos, and he shared his thoughts on the concept of rejection.

He said that most people think that because of his many successes with women, he doesn't get rejected a lot.

He said that that is a HUGE misconception.

He stated that quite the contrary, he has been rejected more times than most of his followers...and more times than the average man.

To put it in perspective, he said that over the course of his life, he has approached literally THOUSANDS of women....so do you know how many rejections he has experienced over the course of those many thousands (rhetorical question).

The reason why he has been rejected so many times, according to him, is because...

1. He does not fear rejection. Certainly, he doesn't like being rejected. But rejection is something that he does not fear.

2. To piggyback off #1, since he does not fear rejection, he does not mind placing himself in the position to be rejected.

He stated that he does not mind giving a woman every bit of opportunity to reject him (boss sh!t).

He stated that since most men fear rejection, they don't place themselves in positions to be rejected, which is why they go Mode 2 when speaking to women or they simply do not approach women at all (like most of you mf'ers on here).

If you look at the NBA's all-time leaders in field goal makes, you will see that those same players who rank among the leaders of that category, also are among the leaders in field goal attempts (obviously).

Thousands among thousands of attempts, makes, and misses.

In other words, not only do they keep shooting, they have the confidence to KEEP shooting, even when they miss.

In closing on that note, I will leave a quote I saw on in the comment section on one of ARC's videos..

"If you aint being rejected, then you simply ain't playing the game."

In other words, rejection is part of the game.

More on how this relates to me in the next post..
Preach
 
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