"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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its this guy i like

AdiffrentTypeOfGirl

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so its this guy i like who is so awesome he's smart cute tall funny goofy and we get along good. but its certain things that bug me for one iam 17 i will be 18 in a month and he's 20 he in college he has his life together and has a job just like me but he seems a little bit clingy and i didnt expect him to be this way because of how cute he looks i thought he would be used to having attractive women around him. he says he misses me all the time but we havent really had any dates its times when iam at his job but i really dont count them as dates we talk everyday on the phone and fall asleep together too hes a really cool person i guess i just wanna know am i over thinkin it i already think he flirts with other people because his job deals with alot of people what should i do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
 

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goundra said:
relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
What country do you live in? 16 is age of consent in most countries. Why can't she just marry a Filipino man unseen? I'm sure there's tons of hot men from 3rd world countries just aching to become prison guards
 

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AdiffrentTypeOfGirl said:
so its this guy i like who is so awesome he's smart cute tall funny goofy and we get along good. but its certain things that bug me for one iam 17 i will be 18 in a month and he's 20 he in college he has his life together and has a job just like me but he seems a little bit clingy and i didnt expect him to be this way because of how cute he looks i thought he would be used to having attractive women around him. he says he misses me all the time but we havent really had any dates its times when iam at his job but i really dont count them as dates we talk everyday on the phone and fall asleep together too hes a really cool person i guess i just wanna know am i over thinkin it i already think he flirts with other people because his job deals with alot of people what should i do?
Thanks to texting, this is how western women communicate today. Sad, isn't it?
 

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goundra said:
relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
If she's in America, its only illegal in 12 states.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Atom Smasher said:
Thanks to texting, this is how western women communicate today. Sad, isn't it?
I Cracked up at this.

To the OP, wow get some spelling and grammar in that mind dump of a post of your's and maybe we'll answer your question.
 

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Stay in school, get your hormones under control and forget this guy.

You're just a puppy. Work on YOUR life.
 

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haHA! nice troll! pretend to be a girl.....post on a dating forum for men.....
Have popcorn and soda ready...watch as AFCs and idiots respond to you like flies attracted to a pile of sh!t
 

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Ever heard of a period? Enroll in a grammar class then get back to us.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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