"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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so its this guy i like who is so awesome he's smart cute tall funny goofy and we get along good. but its certain things that bug me for one iam 17 i will be 18 in a month and he's 20 he in college he has his life together and has a job just like me but he seems a little bit clingy and i didnt expect him to be this way because of how cute he looks i thought he would be used to having attractive women around him. he says he misses me all the time but we havent really had any dates its times when iam at his job but i really dont count them as dates we talk everyday on the phone and fall asleep together too hes a really cool person i guess i just wanna know am i over thinkin it i already think he flirts with other people because his job deals with alot of people what should i do?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
 

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goundra said:
relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
What country do you live in? 16 is age of consent in most countries. Why can't she just marry a Filipino man unseen? I'm sure there's tons of hot men from 3rd world countries just aching to become prison guards
 

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AdiffrentTypeOfGirl said:
so its this guy i like who is so awesome he's smart cute tall funny goofy and we get along good. but its certain things that bug me for one iam 17 i will be 18 in a month and he's 20 he in college he has his life together and has a job just like me but he seems a little bit clingy and i didnt expect him to be this way because of how cute he looks i thought he would be used to having attractive women around him. he says he misses me all the time but we havent really had any dates its times when iam at his job but i really dont count them as dates we talk everyday on the phone and fall asleep together too hes a really cool person i guess i just wanna know am i over thinkin it i already think he flirts with other people because his job deals with alot of people what should i do?
Thanks to texting, this is how western women communicate today. Sad, isn't it?
 

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goundra said:
relax, you are 17. you have 20 years before have to worry about kids, assuming that you want them and dont want to adopt. Sex with you is illegal, anyway, so it will be a while before you have much of a 'hook" for him.
If she's in America, its only illegal in 12 states.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Atom Smasher said:
Thanks to texting, this is how western women communicate today. Sad, isn't it?
I Cracked up at this.

To the OP, wow get some spelling and grammar in that mind dump of a post of your's and maybe we'll answer your question.
 

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Stay in school, get your hormones under control and forget this guy.

You're just a puppy. Work on YOUR life.
 

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haHA! nice troll! pretend to be a girl.....post on a dating forum for men.....
Have popcorn and soda ready...watch as AFCs and idiots respond to you like flies attracted to a pile of sh!t
 

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Ever heard of a period? Enroll in a grammar class then get back to us.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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