"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It's official, hotornot.com is ridiculous.

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Okay, so we all probably realize that the very premise of a site like hotornot.com is pretty ridiculous if one is trying to get any type of accuracy in their rating...We know this.

But I've always been looking for confirmation of this, so that ppl on here will finally stop using it as place to guage looks. Why, you ask?

It's because guys, more often than girls are more often not considered "universally hot", but rather, can be considered very good looking by one girl, and disgusting by another. This doesn't hold so much for women, as men do tend to be more universally selective when it comes to choosing women based on looks. (There is a clinical study which shows this, but I don't remember where it is. It was in the psych databse that my school has access to).

So anyway, I finally found some solid evidence that hotornot.com is full of shyte with respect to men. Now don't get me wrong, I know where I stand. I'm not a knockout, but I'm not bad looking either. I'm probably around 7-7.5 for most women, but my body is a 9 (would be a ten if I was taller. I'm an elite athlete)

I posted 4 pics. All different pics.

One sitting, hands behind head with a big smile:
Avg rating was 6.7. 50 votes

One standing same big smile, shirtless, six-pack showing, different head rotation:
Avg rating 8.9 54 votes

One shirtless, with my fight gear on, hands in the air jokingly:
Avg rating was 7.9 90 votes.

One showing ONLY mid-torso (solar plexus and up) wearing an Armani suit, 45 degree profile view.
Avg ratin 9.9 50 votes...

I mean wtf...It's not even consistant within 1.5 points.
So finally, as we've been preaching over and over again in this forum, looks are not a deal breaker. If you have sufficient other qualities and you do the best with what you have (great body, clean your skin up, good haircut), you can get above avg. women, even if you are below avg.
Of course there are always some chicks who are shallow, but you don't want that type anyway. So can we have the newbies on this board stop harping about how "they can never get a quality chick because no matter what they do they are just ugly."
Just get someone like those "queer eye for the straight guy" d00ds to fix you up. You just have to do the best with what you got.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ratings on hotornot are ridiculous.

However, it's a great way to meet hot girls.

You don't have to be put up for ratings to meet people.
 

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they always give you a high rating for some reason regardless of what pic yu put up. Is there a more realistic sight?
 

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Well who knows, maybe Hot or Not is 100% full on right. I mean, if you sat in some gay pose and made a goofy smile and we asked a bunch of girls to rate you, I don't imagine they'd all give you 10s. But then we could put you in an armani suit and ask some girls to rate you, it'd be a lot higher.

As an experiment, we should take an ugly little guy and pose him with a whole bunch of hot babes, I mean like 2 girls on each side, all 9's. We could post his picture like that and test the theory that hot girls make an ugly guy seem more attractive.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
Well who knows, maybe Hot or Not is 100% full on right. I mean, if you sat in some gay pose and made a goofy smile and we asked a bunch of girls to rate you, I don't imagine they'd all give you 10s. But then we could put you in an armani suit and ask some girls to rate you, it'd be a lot higher.

As an experiment, we should take an ugly little guy and pose him with a whole bunch of hot babes, I mean like 2 girls on each side, all 9's. We could post his picture like that and test the theory that hot girls make an ugly guy seem more attractive.
hey, if I have free time I'll photoshop that, and try it...seems interesting
 

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Originally posted by BrotherAP
Well who knows, maybe Hot or Not is 100% full on right. I mean, if you sat in some gay pose and made a goofy smile and we asked a bunch of girls to rate you, I don't imagine they'd all give you 10s. But then we could put you in an armani suit and ask some girls to rate you, it'd be a lot higher.

As an experiment, we should take an ugly little guy and pose him with a whole bunch of hot babes, I mean like 2 girls on each side, all 9's. We could post his picture like that and test the theory that hot girls make an ugly guy seem more attractive.
I can see the point you are trying to make, and yeah, I think you're right. You're basically saying that context matters. And you are 100% right on I think. So basically I guess the lesson to take from this, is to ensure that the context in which you live your life (be it your looks, your success, your friends, your attitude) should ALWAYS be at a level that will make you a "10". :)

Good post.
 

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hmm so would the picture I got with the girls at Hooters do anything for my rating? Sounds like an experiment...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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