Demodulate
Senior Don Juan
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- Feb 16, 2003
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I have known her for about two years now.. we went to grad school together. she perused me originally, actually broke up with a boyfriend to chase me it seemed. I had a GF at the time, and she made it known she liked me.backbreaker said:no need to go around name calling the woman.
if we were the other guy, on that trip, we'd be high fiving about the new **** buddy we took from some sap.
life is not black and white. one of the things the dating game teaches you. she is a female that for whatever the reasons, lost interest. it happens. that's what women, congresswomen, women who work at mc d's, women who are attorneys, women who are sports stars, women who are 5's and women who are 9's, church women, or bar sluts, they leave when they lose interest.
i have a question for the OP.
how long did you know her before you dated? how hard did you make her work?
everyone remembers their first car. mine was a 92 white toyota tercel. now, i nkew i was getting a car. my mom sold insurancde and was never home, and it was inconvenient driving me everywhere, my dad didn't live there, i had become an inconvenince and everyone's life was made easier, when i had my own car. so the day i turned 16, i got a car. the day. i treated that car like utter ****. i don't think i got the oil changed once. car didn't last one year.
i did not have to work for it.
when i was 19 i decided i was going to go into business for myself. mny mom had given me her accord, she got a mercedes. that accord had 300k miles on it. i kept it clean but i learned the value of a car, with that car lol. i went though hell with that car. i lived in it for a while. after a while i told myself never again, if i was foruanite enough to ever get a better car, i would not treat it like ****. one day, actually not that long later, i had always wanted a lexus sports car. that was my dream car. and i bought it. that was 6 years ago and i bull **** you not, not only do i still have the car, it's in just as good condition as the day i bought it if not better. i have 3 cars total and i still love that damn car, appricate that damn car and drive it about 70% of the time.
what i am getting at is with that story, people in general, dont' appreciate **** they don't earn. doesn't matter if it's a car, money, sobriety, house, women, clothes, games, schooling, doesn't matter.
when i met my fiancee i was dating or ****ing 4 other women, not counting the women i knew i could **** if just called back. it took her almost a half a year before i settled down with her, she want dime and truth be told, i knew i wanted her not long after i met her, very shortly, i knew she was the goods for me, but i knew that the only way this was going to work long term is if she appreciated what she had. and the only way you can do that is make them earn it. make them earn YOU. make them go on dates with you and prove to you why they should be the one you are with. make them cook for you. make them talk to you and show how smart or unsmart they are. make them show you that they know how to balance a checkbook. make them show you that they can clean up after themselves. many a time she got pissed and told me she was tired of me ****ing other women, wasn't budging. because this is the only way it will work. you will either show me you are more woman then the others, or you are going to flame out. there is no other options. eventually she did.
she checked off so many boxes on my want list. I actually fell for her.
I think thats where I lost it, I ceased being challenge..
I wanted to please her..
I havent been dumped in about 10 years.. I forgot everything I learned and went AFC.. lost a girl who was a great catch in my eyes..
not sure where it went wrong though.. last week it felt 100% normal, my gut only started acting up on wednesday... two days later it was done.