It's either I get laid or I get to the friend zone, there's no in between

[the_govner]

What is my problem???? I think I play it too safe with the girls I actually like.

So I have a situation, there's this girl that Ive been acquainted with for awhile now, friend of a friend, and she's always had a boyfriend. Nice, good looking, down to earth chick.

so she moved to australia to take her masters, and noticed on her fb that she's single now. So I start chatting her up on messenger, maybe about once a week for like 3 months. very friendly, hardly any flirting or anything. Just getting to know each other basically.

So she's coming back in about 3 weeks and I guess I'll take her out, do you think chatting has gotten me the friendzone though? I haven't taken any 'chat risks' or anything like that. I call her love sometimes, you know like brb love, **** like that.

Anyway, does anyone have this either get laid or friendzone problem? no in between?

 

[Dante420]

Your not doing some things right. If there's no in-between for you there's clearly in your game, which brings me to the conclusion that most of the girls your getting f-closes with are of the slutty variety.

 

[omega05]

what's the in between though?

 

[the_govner]

Your not doing some things right. If there's no in-between for you there's clearly in your game, which brings me to the conclusion that most of the girls your getting f-closes with are of the slutty variety.

they aren't sluts really, some are really desirable women. But when I don't see them as long term material, i take more risks and have that don't care attitude and i close.

the in between is good quality dating with ltr potential.