Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options
- Thread starter twilight
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
brucevangeorge
Banned
How the hell do you stop that? Tha's one of the reasons I falied so much. It literally drove me nuts. I went to sleep late and woke up earlier because of those crazy ass dreams.twilight said:
Not only that but I was anxious all the time. Had more emotion than usual. Mostly pissed off. I didn't give a **** about anything.
How do you make that **** go away?
Cranky Monk
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MagikDude
Don Juan
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
chickenlegs03
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had some incredibly vivid dreams last night, and woke up to a massive hard-on.
anyway, guess i'll be heading over to the 6 month challenge soon.
thanks guys for the support and for the great thread that got me started on this.
good luck to the rest of you guys...and hope you can join the other thread soon
Nexxus
Senior Don Juan
I was sick the last week so I'm startin' again from 0
so happy finally i can go out again... will definitely do somethin tonight
brucevangeorge
Banned
Damn guys. How do you get past all the weird feelings? When you are brimming with energy? The scary-ass vivid dreams? The extreeme horniness?
DAY 1/21
il_duce
Master Don Juan
Had another dream last night. Seriously, I think I've woken up with a hard-on every day since I've started. Don't think I'd feel normal if I didn't.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
PumpNightmare
Don Juan
Damn. Its hard to do this with a night like last night. Went to Bullwinkles here in Tally, drank some and danced some. Although, didn't get much conversation in, but its a start. I need to remember to wait till 10~11pm to go instead of 9pm...not much going on till at least 11pm.
Cranky Monk
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But that said, I don't feel too bad about it. This is a new record for me, and resisting the urge actually got easier as time passed - helped by the momentum of keeping busy, the habit being present in the moment, and the extra motivation of not breaking the streak.
The effect of the T-boost is quite real. I don't feel very different emotionally and physically, but looking back over my actions and attitudes of the past week, I've been more focused and engaging than my normal behaviour. And I like it!
Day 1 tomrorow!
don juan jr
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
brucevangeorge
Banned
il_duce
Master Don Juan
Cranky Monk
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PumpNightmare
Don Juan
One week down, two to go. Hopefuly I'll have better luck at the bar/club(s) this upcoming Friday.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.