"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
It takes 21 days to break a habit: 21 days no masturbation: The 3 week plan w/options
- Thread starter twilight
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
brucevangeorge
Banned
How the hell do you stop that? Tha's one of the reasons I falied so much. It literally drove me nuts. I went to sleep late and woke up earlier because of those crazy ass dreams.twilight said:
Not only that but I was anxious all the time. Had more emotion than usual. Mostly pissed off. I didn't give a **** about anything.
How do you make that **** go away?
Cranky Monk
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MagikDude
Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
chickenlegs03
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had some incredibly vivid dreams last night, and woke up to a massive hard-on.
anyway, guess i'll be heading over to the 6 month challenge soon.
thanks guys for the support and for the great thread that got me started on this.
good luck to the rest of you guys...and hope you can join the other thread soon
Nexxus
Senior Don Juan
I was sick the last week so I'm startin' again from 0
so happy finally i can go out again... will definitely do somethin tonight
brucevangeorge
Banned
Damn guys. How do you get past all the weird feelings? When you are brimming with energy? The scary-ass vivid dreams? The extreeme horniness?
DAY 1/21
il_duce
Master Don Juan
Had another dream last night. Seriously, I think I've woken up with a hard-on every day since I've started. Don't think I'd feel normal if I didn't.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
PumpNightmare
Don Juan
Damn. Its hard to do this with a night like last night. Went to Bullwinkles here in Tally, drank some and danced some. Although, didn't get much conversation in, but its a start. I need to remember to wait till 10~11pm to go instead of 9pm...not much going on till at least 11pm.
Cranky Monk
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But that said, I don't feel too bad about it. This is a new record for me, and resisting the urge actually got easier as time passed - helped by the momentum of keeping busy, the habit being present in the moment, and the extra motivation of not breaking the streak.
The effect of the T-boost is quite real. I don't feel very different emotionally and physically, but looking back over my actions and attitudes of the past week, I've been more focused and engaging than my normal behaviour. And I like it!
Day 1 tomrorow!
don juan jr
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
brucevangeorge
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il_duce
Master Don Juan
Cranky Monk
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PumpNightmare
Don Juan
One week down, two to go. Hopefuly I'll have better luck at the bar/club(s) this upcoming Friday.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.