Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
I started Saturday, the 22nd. Count me in!!!!!
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
twilight said:12/21
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Looks like we have a winnerOxide said:22/21
Oxide wins. Fatality.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Congratulations Oxide!!! You would actually be classified under 1/21 2nd option (then 2/21 2nd option, etc.) if you choose to continue this (please refer to the first post in this thread) and also props on the MK reference lol.Oxide said:22/21
Oxide wins. Fatality.
While your concern is appreciated, guilt of any form is not welcomed in this thread, please refer to the first post in this thread. Thanks.bbestar said:Technically you left the forest of your addiction in my books.
You now have to make a decision in your life today, indulge in the lusts of the flesh.
or
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Can someone please explain the point of this?twilight said:I've noticed a lot of people have had difficulty completing the 6 month task, so I wanted a plan that broke this task down into smaller intervals. Here's how it works. The experts say that it takes 21 days to break a habit...so we're gonna go for 21 days then after the first 21 day period, you have a choice to opt for a second 21 day period, then after that the third and so on. After each option you'll start back to Day 1 and label it 2nd option, 3rd option, whatever option it is and go all the way to 21 again. The options must be consecutive or you have to start over at period one. Feel free to log your experience in this thread and also extend support to others (not judgement, guilt, or pessimism). During this period of no masturbation you may have sex as often as you like. It is not recommended that you watch porn as it may hurt your mission but it is not prohibited.
Here's what your progression should look like:
1/21...
1/21 2nd option
1/21 3rd option....etc.
THE TIME IS NOW!
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WELCOME! As you can see you're amongst champions here...see you at the top.Cranky Monk said:OK I'm in. I tried on the 6 month thread before, but only made it to day 5.
21 is much more achievable!
I'm positive you can get to 21 too (refer to posts #43-45 for inspiration)...and release does feel superb, and from now on we'll be getting that release from sex with women, not masturbation. Here's a quote from a fellow dj:Byezbozhniy said:I never made it to 6/21. Back to the start for me. I'm positive I can get 21 days. For those of you doing so well, congratulations, but boy does it feel superb when you get that release.
1/21.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.