Marlimus
Senior Don Juan
I started Saturday, the 22nd. Count me in!!!!!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
twilight said:12/21
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Looks like we have a winnerOxide said:22/21
Oxide wins. Fatality.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Congratulations Oxide!!! You would actually be classified under 1/21 2nd option (then 2/21 2nd option, etc.) if you choose to continue this (please refer to the first post in this thread) and also props on the MK reference lol.Oxide said:22/21
Oxide wins. Fatality.
While your concern is appreciated, guilt of any form is not welcomed in this thread, please refer to the first post in this thread. Thanks.bbestar said:Technically you left the forest of your addiction in my books.
You now have to make a decision in your life today, indulge in the lusts of the flesh.
or
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Can someone please explain the point of this?twilight said:I've noticed a lot of people have had difficulty completing the 6 month task, so I wanted a plan that broke this task down into smaller intervals. Here's how it works. The experts say that it takes 21 days to break a habit...so we're gonna go for 21 days then after the first 21 day period, you have a choice to opt for a second 21 day period, then after that the third and so on. After each option you'll start back to Day 1 and label it 2nd option, 3rd option, whatever option it is and go all the way to 21 again. The options must be consecutive or you have to start over at period one. Feel free to log your experience in this thread and also extend support to others (not judgement, guilt, or pessimism). During this period of no masturbation you may have sex as often as you like. It is not recommended that you watch porn as it may hurt your mission but it is not prohibited.
Here's what your progression should look like:
1/21...
1/21 2nd option
1/21 3rd option....etc.
THE TIME IS NOW!
:yes:
WELCOME! As you can see you're amongst champions here...see you at the top.Cranky Monk said:OK I'm in. I tried on the 6 month thread before, but only made it to day 5.
21 is much more achievable!
I'm positive you can get to 21 too (refer to posts #43-45 for inspiration)...and release does feel superb, and from now on we'll be getting that release from sex with women, not masturbation. Here's a quote from a fellow dj:Byezbozhniy said:I never made it to 6/21. Back to the start for me. I'm positive I can get 21 days. For those of you doing so well, congratulations, but boy does it feel superb when you get that release.
1/21.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.