"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Is watching porn cheating?

Is watching porn cheating?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 2.4%
  • No

    Votes: 36 87.8%
  • I don't know

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Guoy Darko

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Well, I've seen this question almost everywhere, but I can't seem to find it on sosuave.net.

Do you consider it cheating? Do you still watch porn when you're having a girlfriend? etcetera.

I was just wondering what you guys (and girls) think. ;)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Obsidian

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Since you're asking an ethical question, I'll give you an ethical answer:

Jesus Christ said:
You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
That said, you're not actually married to her. Maybe you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks?
I don't really approve of porn, but if you're not married, I wouldn't call it cheating...technically.
It's still not real good for you, tho.
 

Lust

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Pft, I don't consider it cheating no way.

Screw that, if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
 

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if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
interesting perspective
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Guoy Darko

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Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating. :D But I do not take him really serious....... :rolleyes:
 

PhatE1vis

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How is porn cheating?

If I watch a movie about a murder, am I an accomplice?

Some of you guys are really hung up on sex.
 

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A better analogy would be if you watched a movie that caused you to hate someone and desire to kill them.
 

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True. I was being facetious with the murder remark; however, I see nothing wrong with porn if it's not affecting your partner. Other things can be equally harmful to a relationship (video game obsession, drug abuse, etc.). I just think many people assign some special status to porn because it involves sex.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Obsidian, do you ever watch porn?
never in video format. Have looked at some still porn on some occasions, but I really try to avoid it.
There are some threads about it on this forum (along with threads about excessive masturbation).
 

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Yes, most guys think it's not cheating, but almost everybody who thinks it's cheating are women....... except from Dr. Phill or Jesus Christ.
 

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If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" does to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
 

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DJDamage said:
If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" do to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
She starts fingerbanging herself?
 

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Guoy Darko said:
She starts fingerbanging herself?
It floats their juices that is why they love watching those movies. What do you think Danielle Steele novels are all about? its soft porn for women. Men are visual creatures that is why we can't read that crap but we carry a "playboy" around with us.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
 

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bigjohnson said:
It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
I never discussed it with her. And to be honest, I wouldn't watch it if she was here. She's gone now for two weeks. But somehow I feel guilty. For the first time. :nervous:
 

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I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
 

Guoy Darko

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RogueWarrior said:
I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
Creepy because she broke up with him for that reason, or creepy because he was watching porn on HER computer?
 

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His watching porn on her computer was clear enough evidence of mental impairment to be breakup-worthy, especially if she had any intention of breeding.

Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating.
If that doesn't solidify my "no" answer ...
Anyhow, I'm a bit surprised. I'd have expected him to think it's cheating if the man does it, but not if the woman does it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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