"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is watching porn cheating?

Is watching porn cheating?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 2.4%
  • No

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  • I don't know

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Guoy Darko

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Well, I've seen this question almost everywhere, but I can't seem to find it on sosuave.net.

Do you consider it cheating? Do you still watch porn when you're having a girlfriend? etcetera.

I was just wondering what you guys (and girls) think. ;)
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Since you're asking an ethical question, I'll give you an ethical answer:

Jesus Christ said:
You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
That said, you're not actually married to her. Maybe you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks?
I don't really approve of porn, but if you're not married, I wouldn't call it cheating...technically.
It's still not real good for you, tho.
 

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Pft, I don't consider it cheating no way.

Screw that, if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
 

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if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
interesting perspective
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Guoy Darko

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Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating. :D But I do not take him really serious....... :rolleyes:
 

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How is porn cheating?

If I watch a movie about a murder, am I an accomplice?

Some of you guys are really hung up on sex.
 

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A better analogy would be if you watched a movie that caused you to hate someone and desire to kill them.
 

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True. I was being facetious with the murder remark; however, I see nothing wrong with porn if it's not affecting your partner. Other things can be equally harmful to a relationship (video game obsession, drug abuse, etc.). I just think many people assign some special status to porn because it involves sex.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Obsidian, do you ever watch porn?
never in video format. Have looked at some still porn on some occasions, but I really try to avoid it.
There are some threads about it on this forum (along with threads about excessive masturbation).
 

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Yes, most guys think it's not cheating, but almost everybody who thinks it's cheating are women....... except from Dr. Phill or Jesus Christ.
 

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If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" does to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
 

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DJDamage said:
If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" do to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
She starts fingerbanging herself?
 

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Guoy Darko said:
She starts fingerbanging herself?
It floats their juices that is why they love watching those movies. What do you think Danielle Steele novels are all about? its soft porn for women. Men are visual creatures that is why we can't read that crap but we carry a "playboy" around with us.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
 

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bigjohnson said:
It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
I never discussed it with her. And to be honest, I wouldn't watch it if she was here. She's gone now for two weeks. But somehow I feel guilty. For the first time. :nervous:
 

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I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
 

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RogueWarrior said:
I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
Creepy because she broke up with him for that reason, or creepy because he was watching porn on HER computer?
 

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His watching porn on her computer was clear enough evidence of mental impairment to be breakup-worthy, especially if she had any intention of breeding.

Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating.
If that doesn't solidify my "no" answer ...
Anyhow, I'm a bit surprised. I'd have expected him to think it's cheating if the man does it, but not if the woman does it.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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