"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Is watching porn cheating?

Is watching porn cheating?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 2.4%
  • No

    Votes: 36 87.8%
  • I don't know

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Guoy Darko

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Well, I've seen this question almost everywhere, but I can't seem to find it on sosuave.net.

Do you consider it cheating? Do you still watch porn when you're having a girlfriend? etcetera.

I was just wondering what you guys (and girls) think. ;)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Since you're asking an ethical question, I'll give you an ethical answer:

Jesus Christ said:
You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
That said, you're not actually married to her. Maybe you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks?
I don't really approve of porn, but if you're not married, I wouldn't call it cheating...technically.
It's still not real good for you, tho.
 

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Pft, I don't consider it cheating no way.

Screw that, if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
 

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if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
interesting perspective
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Guoy Darko

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Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating. :D But I do not take him really serious....... :rolleyes:
 

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How is porn cheating?

If I watch a movie about a murder, am I an accomplice?

Some of you guys are really hung up on sex.
 

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A better analogy would be if you watched a movie that caused you to hate someone and desire to kill them.
 

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True. I was being facetious with the murder remark; however, I see nothing wrong with porn if it's not affecting your partner. Other things can be equally harmful to a relationship (video game obsession, drug abuse, etc.). I just think many people assign some special status to porn because it involves sex.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Obsidian, do you ever watch porn?
never in video format. Have looked at some still porn on some occasions, but I really try to avoid it.
There are some threads about it on this forum (along with threads about excessive masturbation).
 

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Yes, most guys think it's not cheating, but almost everybody who thinks it's cheating are women....... except from Dr. Phill or Jesus Christ.
 

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If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" does to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
 

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DJDamage said:
If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" do to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
She starts fingerbanging herself?
 

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Guoy Darko said:
She starts fingerbanging herself?
It floats their juices that is why they love watching those movies. What do you think Danielle Steele novels are all about? its soft porn for women. Men are visual creatures that is why we can't read that crap but we carry a "playboy" around with us.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
 

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bigjohnson said:
It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
I never discussed it with her. And to be honest, I wouldn't watch it if she was here. She's gone now for two weeks. But somehow I feel guilty. For the first time. :nervous:
 

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I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
 

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RogueWarrior said:
I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
Creepy because she broke up with him for that reason, or creepy because he was watching porn on HER computer?
 

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His watching porn on her computer was clear enough evidence of mental impairment to be breakup-worthy, especially if she had any intention of breeding.

Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating.
If that doesn't solidify my "no" answer ...
Anyhow, I'm a bit surprised. I'd have expected him to think it's cheating if the man does it, but not if the woman does it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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