"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is watching porn cheating?

Is watching porn cheating?

  • Yes

    Votes: 1 2.4%
  • No

    Votes: 36 87.8%
  • I don't know

    Votes: 4 9.8%

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Guoy Darko

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Well, I've seen this question almost everywhere, but I can't seem to find it on sosuave.net.

Do you consider it cheating? Do you still watch porn when you're having a girlfriend? etcetera.

I was just wondering what you guys (and girls) think. ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Obsidian

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Since you're asking an ethical question, I'll give you an ethical answer:

Jesus Christ said:
You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
That said, you're not actually married to her. Maybe you should ask your girlfriend what she thinks?
I don't really approve of porn, but if you're not married, I wouldn't call it cheating...technically.
It's still not real good for you, tho.
 

Lust

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Pft, I don't consider it cheating no way.

Screw that, if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
 

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if my woman can't satisfy my sexual drive that I have to go watch porn, it's not cheating at all.
interesting perspective
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Guoy Darko

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Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating. :D But I do not take him really serious....... :rolleyes:
 

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How is porn cheating?

If I watch a movie about a murder, am I an accomplice?

Some of you guys are really hung up on sex.
 

Obsidian

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A better analogy would be if you watched a movie that caused you to hate someone and desire to kill them.
 

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True. I was being facetious with the murder remark; however, I see nothing wrong with porn if it's not affecting your partner. Other things can be equally harmful to a relationship (video game obsession, drug abuse, etc.). I just think many people assign some special status to porn because it involves sex.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Obsidian, do you ever watch porn?
never in video format. Have looked at some still porn on some occasions, but I really try to avoid it.
There are some threads about it on this forum (along with threads about excessive masturbation).
 

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Yes, most guys think it's not cheating, but almost everybody who thinks it's cheating are women....... except from Dr. Phill or Jesus Christ.
 

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If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" does to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
 

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DJDamage said:
If that is considered cheating then all the chick flicks that are surronded by "romance" themes, should be considered cheating as well.

What "Anal Fever 3" do to me, they do the exact same thing for her when she watches "The Notebook" or "Titanic".
She starts fingerbanging herself?
 

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Guoy Darko said:
She starts fingerbanging herself?
It floats their juices that is why they love watching those movies. What do you think Danielle Steele novels are all about? its soft porn for women. Men are visual creatures that is why we can't read that crap but we carry a "playboy" around with us.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
 

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bigjohnson said:
It's cheating if it's outside the agreed (or to some degree implied) parameters of your relationship. If she walked in on you watching porn, what would you do? The answer to that question answers your question.
I never discussed it with her. And to be honest, I wouldn't watch it if she was here. She's gone now for two weeks. But somehow I feel guilty. For the first time. :nervous:
 

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I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
 

Guoy Darko

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RogueWarrior said:
I know a girl who broke up w/ her BF because he was watching pr0n on her computer when she wasn't around. Creepy.
Creepy because she broke up with him for that reason, or creepy because he was watching porn on HER computer?
 

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His watching porn on her computer was clear enough evidence of mental impairment to be breakup-worthy, especially if she had any intention of breeding.

Dr. Phill thinks it's cheating.
If that doesn't solidify my "no" answer ...
Anyhow, I'm a bit surprised. I'd have expected him to think it's cheating if the man does it, but not if the woman does it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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