"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I dont mean like the really vague signs I mean like when shes a little more than friendly but im not talking about dtf friendly. Makes any sense?
 

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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It is and it's not. You should be able to spot them at the right moment. You should not need a lot IOIs to hit on a random girl. On the other hand, people do seek them when it's your co-worker, friend, someone they may see on a daily basis.
The other thing is that body language and flirt are very misleading, as well as shy people may not even resort to it. You may overlook someone with interest and totally misread an attention *****.

I would not completely trust it. The good thing is that you learn to be more observant and responsive.
 
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PapiChulo said:
It is and it's not. You should be able to spot them at the right moment. You should not need a lot IOIs to hit on a random girl. On the other hand, people do seek them when it's your co-worker, friend, someone they may see on a daily basis.
The other thing is that body language and flirt are very misleading, as well as shy people may not even resort to it. You may overlook someone with interest and totally misread an attention *****.

I would not completely trust it. The good thing is that you learn to be more observant and responsive.
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Exactly. It's about being observant.

It would be foolish to totally ignore signs. But the problem is, people here...lesser-experienced people....tend to make big deals out of signs. "She smiles at me and touches her hair. Should I ask her out?" "She crosses her legs towards me!"

It's like...maybe her head itched, man. Start a conversation with her and determine whether or not she's into you. Get more aggressive about creating IOIs instead of waiting for these vague signs. What that means is, start talking. Make jokes. Be proactive. Just a little bit of effort will give you more effort than 2 weeks of reading imaginary signals.

An IOI to me is "Does she laugh at my jokes?" "Does she continue the conversation?" Stuff that happens as a result of my actions. Not weird eye contact rules, hair tossing, and crap like that.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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