DonGiovanni
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I dont mean like the really vague signs I mean like when shes a little more than friendly but im not talking about dtf friendly. Makes any sense?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Is Trying to read "signs" a afc move?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
DonGiovanni
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any suggestions?
PapiChulo
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It is and it's not. You should be able to spot them at the right moment. You should not need a lot IOIs to hit on a random girl. On the other hand, people do seek them when it's your co-worker, friend, someone they may see on a daily basis.
The other thing is that body language and flirt are very misleading, as well as shy people may not even resort to it. You may overlook someone with interest and totally misread an attention *****.
I would not completely trust it. The good thing is that you learn to be more observant and responsive.
The other thing is that body language and flirt are very misleading, as well as shy people may not even resort to it. You may overlook someone with interest and totally misread an attention *****.
I would not completely trust it. The good thing is that you learn to be more observant and responsive.
Know any good ones?real2 said:A book on body language will do you wonders! :rockon:
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
Exactly. It's about being observant.PapiChulo said:It is and it's not. You should be able to spot them at the right moment. You should not need a lot IOIs to hit on a random girl. On the other hand, people do seek them when it's your co-worker, friend, someone they may see on a daily basis.
The other thing is that body language and flirt are very misleading, as well as shy people may not even resort to it. You may overlook someone with interest and totally misread an attention *****.
I would not completely trust it. The good thing is that you learn to be more observant and responsive.
It would be foolish to totally ignore signs. But the problem is, people here...lesser-experienced people....tend to make big deals out of signs. "She smiles at me and touches her hair. Should I ask her out?" "She crosses her legs towards me!"
It's like...maybe her head itched, man. Start a conversation with her and determine whether or not she's into you. Get more aggressive about creating IOIs instead of waiting for these vague signs. What that means is, start talking. Make jokes. Be proactive. Just a little bit of effort will give you more effort than 2 weeks of reading imaginary signals.
An IOI to me is "Does she laugh at my jokes?" "Does she continue the conversation?" Stuff that happens as a result of my actions. Not weird eye contact rules, hair tossing, and crap like that.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
HeyPachuco!
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You read between the lines, to make moves that potentially advance or eject you.
Do you care whether you get signs? No.
Do you care whether you get signs? No.