Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Is Tinder mainly about looks?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bokanovsky
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Try it. It's free and doesn't take up much of your time. You just have to select one or more pics from your facebook account that you want women to see, and then it's kind of like Hot or Not. You are presented with women's profiles, one at a time. If you like her pics, swipe to the right. If you don't, swipe to the left. If both of you liked each other, you can send a message.teddy said:
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Yes, it is. My point was that there are far more beta's on those sights than alphas. Not that being on the sight makes you a beta.4north1side2 said:
bukowski_merit
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In my opinion - it depends on what you're shooting for. The best looking girls on there? Yeah, you don't have much chance on there. Neither do I (and i consider myself in between average and good looking.) I've been able to get some of the upper level (looks wise) girls on POF in OKC in the past with game; but Tinder is a different ball game. Lots of girls don't respond to game on there.teddy said:
But if you can ignore that. And go after girls using a simple, "would i bang this girl?" or "would i bang this girl after a few drinks?" (lol) You can probably get a few lays off it. Yes, even if you're not "great" looking.
I will say that most girls on there are very into stuff like Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facetime, etc. And they will treat you like you're a weirdo if you don't have them (i have snapchat but not the rest).
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I banged my first girl off there Saturday night. Fresh out of college 23 yo Nurse still living with parents. Cute face (but her pics were straight hair and she came with really curly hair which i didn't like as much). Tits and @ss for days. Very good in bed.
Only bad thing: She sends me a snapchat last night of a pic of an empty picture frame with a heart around the edge of it... And says "Want your picture to fill this? lol"
Whoa....
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I know one girl who is a lesbian. By that logic, we shouldn't bother with girls, period.Syrio said:
You misread what I wrote. I said I know ONE girl who uses it, as in out of all the girls I know (which is a lot) only one uses it. And she uses it for ego boosting purposes. Plus that's not the only reason I wouldn't use it but I decided not to get into a whole thing about it.Bokanovsky said:
Dont be discouraged. Ugly girls are sometimes harder to hook up with than hot ones. Maybe because they are less comfortable with their sexuality/ physical appearance.4north1side2 said:
Tinder has a very low ratio of success. I've had more success with "howAboutwe" its like tinder but you send date ideas to girls.