"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is Tinder mainly about looks?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bokanovsky
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Try it. It's free and doesn't take up much of your time. You just have to select one or more pics from your facebook account that you want women to see, and then it's kind of like Hot or Not. You are presented with women's profiles, one at a time. If you like her pics, swipe to the right. If you don't, swipe to the left. If both of you liked each other, you can send a message.teddy said:
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Yes, it is. My point was that there are far more beta's on those sights than alphas. Not that being on the sight makes you a beta.4north1side2 said:
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In my opinion - it depends on what you're shooting for. The best looking girls on there? Yeah, you don't have much chance on there. Neither do I (and i consider myself in between average and good looking.) I've been able to get some of the upper level (looks wise) girls on POF in OKC in the past with game; but Tinder is a different ball game. Lots of girls don't respond to game on there.teddy said:
But if you can ignore that. And go after girls using a simple, "would i bang this girl?" or "would i bang this girl after a few drinks?" (lol) You can probably get a few lays off it. Yes, even if you're not "great" looking.
I will say that most girls on there are very into stuff like Snapchat, Instagram, Twitter, Facetime, etc. And they will treat you like you're a weirdo if you don't have them (i have snapchat but not the rest).
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I banged my first girl off there Saturday night. Fresh out of college 23 yo Nurse still living with parents. Cute face (but her pics were straight hair and she came with really curly hair which i didn't like as much). Tits and @ss for days. Very good in bed.
Only bad thing: She sends me a snapchat last night of a pic of an empty picture frame with a heart around the edge of it... And says "Want your picture to fill this? lol"
Whoa....
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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I know one girl who is a lesbian. By that logic, we shouldn't bother with girls, period.Syrio said:
You misread what I wrote. I said I know ONE girl who uses it, as in out of all the girls I know (which is a lot) only one uses it. And she uses it for ego boosting purposes. Plus that's not the only reason I wouldn't use it but I decided not to get into a whole thing about it.Bokanovsky said:
Dont be discouraged. Ugly girls are sometimes harder to hook up with than hot ones. Maybe because they are less comfortable with their sexuality/ physical appearance.4north1side2 said:
Tinder has a very low ratio of success. I've had more success with "howAboutwe" its like tinder but you send date ideas to girls.