"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
is this true? most girls in class with their cell phones visible have a bf...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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the only way to find out is to ask. there is no rule out there that applies to every woman.cguy2004 said:
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Now this is a very specific observation, but I've made it many times in many places, and it might just be me, but whenever I see a girl who always has her phone on hand, many times it's because she doesn't have enough going on in her life.
Personally, I find that the more fun I'm having, the less I check phone, email. Women who are on their phone all the time are, according to my observations, the kind who think that "some thing about whatever that my friend has to tell me" is the most important thing that's happened to her all day. And then they wanna talk to me about it. And I want to leave. And I do.
In short, they tend to be the female equivalent of the AFC.
I already got rid of Facebook, and that's been going great. No need for every girl out there to be able to look up your friends and find photos of you wearing women's underwear in a Rocky Horror production. That's neither here nor there.
God damn, work is driving me crazy lately...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Iceberg
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Save yourself trouble by developing the assumption that any girl with an active interest in her cell phone has a boyfriend?cguy2004 said:
I don't know if I had too much coffee today or what, but that has to be one of the most ridiculous things I've heard in a long time.
Talk to women and you'll find out their interest in you. A girl might have a boyfriend and wanna date you anyway. You can't just assume that a girl checking her cellphone is doing so because she has a man. Christ. That's not even logical. Stop trying to play it safe and just talk to people.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
What the hell man, why should it matter? For all you know she can be expecting a message from her grandpa that came over to visit and is gonna meet her after class.cguy2004 said:
The point is: even if she has a boyfriend what´s the problem of talking with her, getting to know her? Is the universe gonna collapse? The sun turn into a supernova?
You are just preemptively looking for excuses not to act, to not step out of the comfort zone.
Like someone very wise once said, "scared little boys dont get to kiss pretty girls".
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.