"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
is this true? most girls in class with their cell phones visible have a bf...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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the only way to find out is to ask. there is no rule out there that applies to every woman.cguy2004 said:
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Now this is a very specific observation, but I've made it many times in many places, and it might just be me, but whenever I see a girl who always has her phone on hand, many times it's because she doesn't have enough going on in her life.
Personally, I find that the more fun I'm having, the less I check phone, email. Women who are on their phone all the time are, according to my observations, the kind who think that "some thing about whatever that my friend has to tell me" is the most important thing that's happened to her all day. And then they wanna talk to me about it. And I want to leave. And I do.
In short, they tend to be the female equivalent of the AFC.
I already got rid of Facebook, and that's been going great. No need for every girl out there to be able to look up your friends and find photos of you wearing women's underwear in a Rocky Horror production. That's neither here nor there.
God damn, work is driving me crazy lately...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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Save yourself trouble by developing the assumption that any girl with an active interest in her cell phone has a boyfriend?cguy2004 said:
I don't know if I had too much coffee today or what, but that has to be one of the most ridiculous things I've heard in a long time.
Talk to women and you'll find out their interest in you. A girl might have a boyfriend and wanna date you anyway. You can't just assume that a girl checking her cellphone is doing so because she has a man. Christ. That's not even logical. Stop trying to play it safe and just talk to people.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What the hell man, why should it matter? For all you know she can be expecting a message from her grandpa that came over to visit and is gonna meet her after class.cguy2004 said:
The point is: even if she has a boyfriend what´s the problem of talking with her, getting to know her? Is the universe gonna collapse? The sun turn into a supernova?
You are just preemptively looking for excuses not to act, to not step out of the comfort zone.
Like someone very wise once said, "scared little boys dont get to kiss pretty girls".
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.