Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is this too manipulative

nateistoraw

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Hi, I have a 1st date coming up soon.

I have really thought this out.

The date will involve some walking.

On the date, I will "encounter" a homeless person and give them food that was stored in a "doggie-bag". After they gladly accept, or at least I hope:

"I asked for a sandwich bi$%h" -Scary Movie

After that I will ask them if they were a veteran, if they say yes, I will give them like a dollar or 2. If not, I will continue to the next step.

I will have some little conversation with them, and actually get their name. I will tell them good luck, and I have confidence in them.


Now is my plans for the upcoming date too manipulative?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Warrior74

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WTF?

Stop trying to create some sort of hollywood moment and just be your damn self. Jesus christ this is lame.
 
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We in Britain have a phrase and the phrase goes by the name of "Goon".

You, sir are a total goon.

WTF is this? Why are you carrying bags around with you which are used to pick up dog excrement?
 

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yeah dude, thats pretty freaky. i'd say spend more time talking to your date then some homeless man who doesnt want your left overs, only £ to get him high as a kite
 

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lol, a doggie bag is a bag of the leftovers of dinner!

lol. If anyone of you was watching Law & Order last Friday, a guy did this to a "Vet" who became homeless.

I actually do want to help homeless people, as long as they help me back.

No one in life is intentionally good,lol
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I think you need to lose your V-Plates son and you won't lose them playing "help the homeless" on a date. :crackup:
 

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if you want to help the homeless do it when you're not on a date.
plus what if you actually want to finish your dinner on this date?you can't.... cause then you can't take the homeless dude anything.

i'd say stop watching corny films/tv
 

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lol, Law & Order is not a corny film or TV show.

The dude did not help the homeless vet to game, but because he knew what the vets experienced.

lol. I just manipulate circumstances.

lol, also, I planned on not completing my dinner anyway,lol.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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lmao it's a bit TOO manipulative

wouldn't you feel lame if you had to do some dumb routine everytime to get a girl to like you?

just be yourself, you don't need to manipulate a girl to get her to like you do you?
 

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Warrior74 said:
WTF?

Stop trying to create some sort of hollywood moment and just be your damn self. ...this is lame.

I 100% agree with Warrior74.
This is lame,(i;e. so also "stupid")




Warrior74 nailed it when he said you were trying to create some "Hollywood" moment. Here you are talking about "Law and Order" and "Scary Movie".



Obviously you spend huge amounts of time watching tv and movies and you're trying to make the date go perfect the way tv shows and movies go.



You're trying to "script" the date like a tv show.



And what's the point of doing all this anyway? You think showing her you're a good person will make her desire you or something? If that's the case,you need to go back to school,dude.

Read the DJ Bible.



Being "good" has ZERO to do with sexual attraction.
 
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i say you do it lol and while your at it get a friend to hide on a roof and film it then another friend to try and rob you and you can show how strong you are


but make sure we see the vid
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think the idea is interesting, cant wait for the results lol:rockon:
 

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Seriously, not a good move to make.

Ever been on a date with someone that blows there own trumpet, similarsituation, she will just think you are showing off, and want her to think how good you. And asking the guy if heis a veteran lol.... hilarious
 

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Okay, I wish i could make a poll for this.

I personally think it was a good idea, however, you all are the DJs.

I think I should have a more natural date, then one thats planned from a to b.
 

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londonzen said:
i say you do it lol and while your at it get a friend to hide on a roof and film it then another friend to try and rob you and you can show how strong you are


but make sure we see the vid
I agree. Do it an post the video up.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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