"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this too manipulative

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Hi, I have a 1st date coming up soon.

I have really thought this out.

The date will involve some walking.

On the date, I will "encounter" a homeless person and give them food that was stored in a "doggie-bag". After they gladly accept, or at least I hope:

"I asked for a sandwich bi$%h" -Scary Movie

After that I will ask them if they were a veteran, if they say yes, I will give them like a dollar or 2. If not, I will continue to the next step.

I will have some little conversation with them, and actually get their name. I will tell them good luck, and I have confidence in them.


Now is my plans for the upcoming date too manipulative?
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

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WTF?

Stop trying to create some sort of hollywood moment and just be your damn self. Jesus christ this is lame.
 
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We in Britain have a phrase and the phrase goes by the name of "Goon".

You, sir are a total goon.

WTF is this? Why are you carrying bags around with you which are used to pick up dog excrement?
 

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yeah dude, thats pretty freaky. i'd say spend more time talking to your date then some homeless man who doesnt want your left overs, only £ to get him high as a kite
 

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lol, a doggie bag is a bag of the leftovers of dinner!

lol. If anyone of you was watching Law & Order last Friday, a guy did this to a "Vet" who became homeless.

I actually do want to help homeless people, as long as they help me back.

No one in life is intentionally good,lol
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think you need to lose your V-Plates son and you won't lose them playing "help the homeless" on a date. :crackup:
 

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if you want to help the homeless do it when you're not on a date.
plus what if you actually want to finish your dinner on this date?you can't.... cause then you can't take the homeless dude anything.

i'd say stop watching corny films/tv
 

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lol, Law & Order is not a corny film or TV show.

The dude did not help the homeless vet to game, but because he knew what the vets experienced.

lol. I just manipulate circumstances.

lol, also, I planned on not completing my dinner anyway,lol.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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lmao it's a bit TOO manipulative

wouldn't you feel lame if you had to do some dumb routine everytime to get a girl to like you?

just be yourself, you don't need to manipulate a girl to get her to like you do you?
 

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Warrior74 said:
WTF?

Stop trying to create some sort of hollywood moment and just be your damn self. ...this is lame.

I 100% agree with Warrior74.
This is lame,(i;e. so also "stupid")




Warrior74 nailed it when he said you were trying to create some "Hollywood" moment. Here you are talking about "Law and Order" and "Scary Movie".



Obviously you spend huge amounts of time watching tv and movies and you're trying to make the date go perfect the way tv shows and movies go.



You're trying to "script" the date like a tv show.



And what's the point of doing all this anyway? You think showing her you're a good person will make her desire you or something? If that's the case,you need to go back to school,dude.

Read the DJ Bible.



Being "good" has ZERO to do with sexual attraction.
 
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i say you do it lol and while your at it get a friend to hide on a roof and film it then another friend to try and rob you and you can show how strong you are


but make sure we see the vid
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I think the idea is interesting, cant wait for the results lol:rockon:
 

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Seriously, not a good move to make.

Ever been on a date with someone that blows there own trumpet, similarsituation, she will just think you are showing off, and want her to think how good you. And asking the guy if heis a veteran lol.... hilarious
 

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Okay, I wish i could make a poll for this.

I personally think it was a good idea, however, you all are the DJs.

I think I should have a more natural date, then one thats planned from a to b.
 

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londonzen said:
i say you do it lol and while your at it get a friend to hide on a roof and film it then another friend to try and rob you and you can show how strong you are


but make sure we see the vid
I agree. Do it an post the video up.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

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