MatureDJ
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
"Sorry, you do not meet either of these members' requirements for height, income, career field, desire for immediate commitment, body type, travel experience..."In2theGame said:Put me in a Cell with these two lol yeeaaa...
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:dasein said:"Sorry, you do not meet either of these members' requirements for height, income, career field, desire for immediate commitment, body type, travel experience..."
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the delicious irony just about sums up men's dating experiences. Love it.dasein said:"Sorry, you do not meet either of these members' requirements for height, income, career field, desire for immediate commitment, body type, travel experience..."
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
LoLdasein said:"Sorry, you do not meet either of these members' requirements for height, income, career field, desire for immediate commitment, body type, travel experience..."
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Probably because this website selects for attractiveness, whereas those other ones just take everyone.MtnMan said:You know, these women are on average better than what I see on okcupid or match.com:kick:
No doubt. Just in case anyone who is young or less experienced here was -ever- thinking about giving -any- contact information or -any- other personal information to -anyone- in prison, DON'T.Stagger Lee said:Most likely these women were rolling with criminal dudes.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.