"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Is this situation a lost cause?

and1play5

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I was just talking to a girl im very much interested in, and sunday I told her how I felt about her even though she has a bf. Just now our convo turned into a hypothetical questionnaire and I basically asked her how she would have felt about what I said to her if she did not have a bf and she told me she can only see me as a friend?; and to make things worse she asked if I would feel some type of way if she told me she had feeling for one of my friends? Is this situation shot?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The Bat

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You've been friend-zoned. Move on.
 

TheEdgeOf

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You... You told her how you feel?
As in;
"Listen, Steven ( <--- Insert Girl's Name There), I really like you a lot. If you didn't have a boyfriend, do you think there's a chance that we could ever be together. And wait, before you answer, just let me go get a band-aid for this gaping hole I just shot through my foot."
 

Telos

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Dude. This situation is beyond shot. The only way you are EVER going to get with this chick is if you encourage her to f*ck your friend, somehow make her believe that you were lying or experiencing temporary insanity when you "told her your feelings", slam a new broad and post pictures of your conquest all over myspace or some other site so she can see, and then somehow end up with her at a party or gathering where you should proceed to tease the hell out of her and raise every little pang of inadequacy. While your at it, get a tattoo.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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