"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this situation a lost cause?

and1play5

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I was just talking to a girl im very much interested in, and sunday I told her how I felt about her even though she has a bf. Just now our convo turned into a hypothetical questionnaire and I basically asked her how she would have felt about what I said to her if she did not have a bf and she told me she can only see me as a friend?; and to make things worse she asked if I would feel some type of way if she told me she had feeling for one of my friends? Is this situation shot?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The Bat

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You've been friend-zoned. Move on.
 

TheEdgeOf

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You... You told her how you feel?
As in;
"Listen, Steven ( <--- Insert Girl's Name There), I really like you a lot. If you didn't have a boyfriend, do you think there's a chance that we could ever be together. And wait, before you answer, just let me go get a band-aid for this gaping hole I just shot through my foot."
 

Telos

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Dude. This situation is beyond shot. The only way you are EVER going to get with this chick is if you encourage her to f*ck your friend, somehow make her believe that you were lying or experiencing temporary insanity when you "told her your feelings", slam a new broad and post pictures of your conquest all over myspace or some other site so she can see, and then somehow end up with her at a party or gathering where you should proceed to tease the hell out of her and raise every little pang of inadequacy. While your at it, get a tattoo.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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