"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is this situation a lost cause?

and1play5

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I was just talking to a girl im very much interested in, and sunday I told her how I felt about her even though she has a bf. Just now our convo turned into a hypothetical questionnaire and I basically asked her how she would have felt about what I said to her if she did not have a bf and she told me she can only see me as a friend?; and to make things worse she asked if I would feel some type of way if she told me she had feeling for one of my friends? Is this situation shot?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Bat

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You've been friend-zoned. Move on.
 

TheEdgeOf

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You... You told her how you feel?
As in;
"Listen, Steven ( <--- Insert Girl's Name There), I really like you a lot. If you didn't have a boyfriend, do you think there's a chance that we could ever be together. And wait, before you answer, just let me go get a band-aid for this gaping hole I just shot through my foot."
 

Telos

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Dude. This situation is beyond shot. The only way you are EVER going to get with this chick is if you encourage her to f*ck your friend, somehow make her believe that you were lying or experiencing temporary insanity when you "told her your feelings", slam a new broad and post pictures of your conquest all over myspace or some other site so she can see, and then somehow end up with her at a party or gathering where you should proceed to tease the hell out of her and raise every little pang of inadequacy. While your at it, get a tattoo.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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