"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Is this propaganda?

RogueWarrior

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I keep seeing/hearing about this book "He's just not that into you" and how it's "liberating" women. What are DJ's opinions of this? Is this propaganda that will undermine the DJ tactics of being aloof?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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All I know is that the guy who co-wrote it, Greg Behrendt, is one funny motherf*cker.
 

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It's for ugly biatches who can't keep a man.
 

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I haven't read it but from what I hear the overall concept is:

If a guy isn't calling you, is cancelling plans, is acting disinterested, is sleeping with other women... it doesn't mean that he's "complicated" or "very busy with work" or "afraid of commitment" or "intimidated by you".

It just means that he just isn't that into you. so why are you wasting your time stressing over it?

I guess it makes sense and is empowering to women because they stop wasting their time in dead-end relationships (that really aren't "relationships" at all, but they were otherwise too blind to see that). Basically it keeps women from embarrassing themselves by continuing to pursue a man who isn't interested and it keeps women from having nervous breakdowns when they finally realize that a guy they're dating doesn't want anything to do with them.

But mostly I think it's a little overly simplistic.

I don't see it as much of a threat to DJs because I think it doesn't really address men who are just acting "aloof" but rather men who really AREN'T that into the woman. (Truth is, if you AREN'T into her, then you wouldn't care anyway if she stop bothering you).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by RogueWarrior
I keep seeing/hearing about this book "He's just not that into you" and how it's "liberating" women. What are DJ's opinions of this? Is this propaganda that will undermine the DJ tactics of being aloof?
Are we in cold-war-era USSR or something? :rolleyes:
 
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