Well, me and my ex are friends, and the other day we went out and she got to know my best friend. She then told me that she would like to go out with him, and if i would mind. She is into some kissing and making out with hot guys, but no sex (typical portuguese girl). But this guy is like my best friend. If this happens, is it going to create an embarassing situation?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Is this going to be embarassing?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
E-Z Rider
Master Don Juan
I think it would be more akward for your friend than for you. All parties involved would feel better though if you had another girl you were with.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
lloyd_bank$
Don Juan
it depends, if you would have a problem seeing them together, and if it would bother you, you need to tell your friend.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Don't be 'friends' with your ex g/f, if you can't treat her as a friend! Would you introduce her if she was a friend that wasn't your ex?
Walk this Way
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I'd rather have her with my best friend than with some random other guy.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Countless guys I know seem to make it a point not to introduce their gf to any of their friends. It's almost like when they get a gf they dissappear. There's a friend time, then there's a girl friend time, but they don't mix. If my best friend was smoother and better looking than me I definately wouldn't introduce my gf to him. 
Thankfully that's not the case.
Thankfully that's not the case.Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Hey they tried this on "friends" with joey and rachel, didn't they? Gawd I love that show,
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
topdog3853
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I agree with Lloyd_bank$
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.