Well, me and my ex are friends, and the other day we went out and she got to know my best friend. She then told me that she would like to go out with him, and if i would mind. She is into some kissing and making out with hot guys, but no sex (typical portuguese girl). But this guy is like my best friend. If this happens, is it going to create an embarassing situation?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Is this going to be embarassing?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
E-Z Rider
Master Don Juan
I think it would be more akward for your friend than for you. All parties involved would feel better though if you had another girl you were with.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
lloyd_bank$
Don Juan
it depends, if you would have a problem seeing them together, and if it would bother you, you need to tell your friend.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Don't be 'friends' with your ex g/f, if you can't treat her as a friend! Would you introduce her if she was a friend that wasn't your ex?
Walk this Way
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I'd rather have her with my best friend than with some random other guy.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Countless guys I know seem to make it a point not to introduce their gf to any of their friends. It's almost like when they get a gf they dissappear. There's a friend time, then there's a girl friend time, but they don't mix. If my best friend was smoother and better looking than me I definately wouldn't introduce my gf to him. 
Thankfully that's not the case.
Thankfully that's not the case.Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Hey they tried this on "friends" with joey and rachel, didn't they? Gawd I love that show,
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
topdog3853
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I agree with Lloyd_bank$
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.