Well, me and my ex are friends, and the other day we went out and she got to know my best friend. She then told me that she would like to go out with him, and if i would mind. She is into some kissing and making out with hot guys, but no sex (typical portuguese girl). But this guy is like my best friend. If this happens, is it going to create an embarassing situation?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Is this going to be embarassing?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
E-Z Rider
Master Don Juan
I think it would be more akward for your friend than for you. All parties involved would feel better though if you had another girl you were with.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
Regardless, I wouldn't try to intervene or anything, if that's what you're asking.
lloyd_bank$
Don Juan
it depends, if you would have a problem seeing them together, and if it would bother you, you need to tell your friend.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
There's nothing worse than the thought of one of your ex's with your mate - i think!
If you don't still have feelings for this girl you should be ok. It wouldn't be embarassing.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Don't be 'friends' with your ex g/f, if you can't treat her as a friend! Would you introduce her if she was a friend that wasn't your ex?
Walk this Way
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I'd rather have her with my best friend than with some random other guy.
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Countless guys I know seem to make it a point not to introduce their gf to any of their friends. It's almost like when they get a gf they dissappear. There's a friend time, then there's a girl friend time, but they don't mix. If my best friend was smoother and better looking than me I definately wouldn't introduce my gf to him. 
Thankfully that's not the case.
Thankfully that's not the case.Microphone Fiend
Master Don Juan
Hey they tried this on "friends" with joey and rachel, didn't they? Gawd I love that show,
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
AS long as your cool with it, it'll be cool. People naturally might talk about you get cheated on or something, but as long as you know the truth you shouldn't care. This might damage the girl's rep tho, as it loooks like she's going through groups of guys at a time, lol
topdog3853
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I agree with Lloyd_bank$
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.
I think it would be ok as long as you have absolutely no sexual feelings for her anymore. If you really don't then let your friend decide if he wants the feeling of knowing that one of his best friends has "already been there" or "sloppy seconds"
But if you still have a hint of sexual attraction to this girl, then you may want to bring it to your best friends attention [not her's, F**k that, bros before hoes] and hopefully he would respect you and not pursue anything.